Do You F*cking Mind?

Is fear keeping your life small? Learn the difference between good and bad fear, how to stop spiralling, and why irreversible decisions make you happier.

Key takeaways
Good fear versus bad fear: short-term stress can improve performance. Fear, anxiety and excitement use similar brain circuitry and feel similar in the body. So you can reframe nerves as excitement, or burn off anxious energy with quick exercise. Fear becomes harmful when it’s chronic and stops you from acting.
Fears grow bigger because the brain rewrites memories each time you recall them. Each time you revisit a fear, you add emotion and context to the memory. Big life changes, like becoming a parent, can also make old fears feel bigger.
Name the fear to stop the spiral. Spiralling happens when anxious thoughts keep pulling in similar thoughts. Naming the feeling, ideally out loud, pinpointing its cause and offering yourself a more neutral counter-thought brings your prefrontal cortex back online.
Fear of being alone, disappointing your parents or being judged often keeps you stuck. Learning to enjoy your own company makes you less controlling in relationships. Your parents’ disappointment is often about the story they imagined for you, not about you. People will talk when you change, but they’ll move on quickly.
Irreversible decisions often make people happier. In the study I describe, people who couldn’t change their choice of photo print were more satisfied than those who could swap. Committing helps you go all in. Useful anchors include a non-refundable flight or a paid deposit.
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Bonjour and welcome to your head noise episode!

Today I am covering 3 questions. From overcoming the doubt that arrises in your 20s and fear of not doing enough, to dealing with pain and anxiety from past experiences and how to not relive that same pain in the future, and lastly, a listeners husband who has cheated on her on grindr.

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What if success is a brain pattern you can train? Learn how your prefrontal cortex, basal ganglia and dopamine turn goals into habits that actually stick.

Key takeaways
Success is a trainable brain pattern. The corticostriatal loop links the prefrontal cortex (planning and goal-setting) with the basal ganglia (habits and doing). The stronger that link, the easier it is to follow through on your goals.
Motivation from enjoying the process outlasts motivation from rewards. Dopamine reinforces behaviour that feels rewarding while you do it. That’s why goals with small, visible wins (like training for a half marathon) last longer than vague ones like “lose weight.”
Specific goals with an emotion attached stick better. Define success in each part of your life (relationships, career, health) and name the feeling behind it, such as security, freedom or calm. Emotion drives motion and helps your brain rewire itself.
Exercise and impulse control strengthen the brain networks behind goals. HIIT raises BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factor). Agility drills, learning new skills, resisting impulses and lowering stress all improve how well these brain regions work together.
Happy mind, happy grind: automate your habits to avoid burnout. Good sleep, calm relationships and steady routines let the basal ganglia take over repeated tasks. That frees up your prefrontal cortex for creative work and decisions.

Thank you for tuning in! See you next week.
Alexis
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This episode is one of my most loved from the archives.

In this episode, I am sharing with you a 30-day challenge that you can RELATIVELY EASILY implement to change your life... (within reason). This challenge is designed to increase awareness, rewrite and visualize, create energy shifters, and change small routines. By following these simple yet powerful steps, it can help you break away from negative patterns and begin creating more of a growth mindset.
The challenge is broken down into four components: increasing awareness, rewriting and visualizing, creating energy shifters, and changing the bedtime routine.
If you're ready to start making some changes, tune in to this episode to learn more.
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In this head noise episode, I answer 3 email questions from you, my BEANS.
I offering guidance on how to rebuild and forgive oneself as a parent for past mistakes, and how to navigate a partner's infidelity, and be more hopeful in what seems to be a hopeless dating landscape, and dealing lack of emotional support after having a baby.
If you're looking for some life advice, or just to hear my VOICE then this episode is a must-listen.

Danke!
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