The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi

People pleasing isn't a personality flaw — it's a fear response rooted in childhood, perfectionism, and the deep need to stay loved and safe. You keep saying yes, over-explaining, managing everyone's comfort, and somewhere in the process, you've lost track of what you actually want.

Susan Podbielski is a licensed psychotherapist and NYU Langone Fellow who spent a decade in clinical practice — after burning out as a network TV producer — helping high-achieving women break this pattern for good. This episode gives you the roots, the real costs, and the first practical steps back to yourself.

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Childhood wounds rarely announce themselves. They show up the morning you snap at your partner over dishes, or the day a missed promotion turns into a fight at home. The trigger feels like now. It almost always traces back further.Psychologist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst has spent nearly 50 years helping people find the early injury underneath the pattern, then pull it up by the root.You will walk away able to ask a better question, what happened to me, and finally choose a different response.

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That morning cup you can't function without may not be a preference — it could be a pull your body won't let you refuse. Caffeine triggers the same adrenaline surge as a survival emergency, and most people never connect that crash-and-crave cycle to dependence.

Life and health coach Norbert Heuser spent 45 years helping clients see the habits hiding in plain sight. He shares what caffeine actually does inside the body, how to know if you're addicted, and what shifts when awareness finally kicks in.

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This conversation is for general well-being and is not medical advice; please consult your own healthcare provider.
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It is the end of a long day, and you are lying awake doing the math on summer camps, school clothes, and a checking account you have not looked at in weeks.

The tiredness is not just physical. So much of working mother burnout is financial stress and invisible labor no one sees.

The real shift is learning what you can control and what you cannot.

Neonatologist Dr. Susan Landers and financial strategist Dr. Tabatha Russell unpack how mindset and money change everything.

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🌐 Website: https://susanlandersmd.com/

💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-landersmd/

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📚 Book/Resource: So Many Babies, https://susanlandersmd.com/book/

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CONNECT WITH DR. TABATHA RUSSELL

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The homework comes out, the reading starts, and within minutes everyone at the table is frustrated. If that scene plays out in your house, it is not because your child is lazy or behind on intelligence. Their brain makes reading connections a different way, and most classrooms are too crowded to teach to it.

Reading specialist Kim Parra has spent more than 25 years building a ten-minute flashcard method that rewires how kids read. Leave knowing the exact steps to try tonight.
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