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Why You Don't Want to Win Your Next Conversation - with Jefferson Fisher
Most people approach arguments with one goal in mind: winning. But what if winning an argument actually means losing something far more important—connection?
In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and viral communication expert, to explore why people approach conflict the wrong way. Jefferson shares practical strategies that will help you stay in control, reduce defensiveness, and shift from a "you vs. me" mindset to an "us vs. the problem" approach.
In this episode, they discuss:
Why winning an argument often damages the relationship
A simple phrase that instantly de-escalates conflict
How to say difficult things without fear or avoidance
A key mindset shift that transforms the way couples communicate
For anyone who has felt frustrated by recurring fights or struggles to be heard in their relationship, this episode offers game-changing insights. Communication doesn’t have to feel like a battle—learn how to argue better, not harder.
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After The Honeymoon Stage: What Your Relationship Needs Now
The butterflies have faded, the sparks feel dim, and now… it’s like you’re just coexisting. You love each other, but your relationship feels more like roommates than romantic partners. Sound familiar?
In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into what really happens after the honeymoon stage—why passion shifts, why connection starts to feel harder, and why so many couples struggle with feeling distant as life gets busier.
If you’ve ever thought:
Why doesn’t it feel the same anymore?
Are we falling out of love, or is this normal?
How do we get back what we had?
This episode is for you. You’ll learn:
✔️ The biggest misconceptions about love after the honeymoon stage.
✔️ Why feeling like “roommates” doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human.
✔️ Practical ways to bring back connection, even when life feels overwhelming.
If you’ve been craving more intimacy, laughter, and closeness in your relationship, hit play now.
Podcast Episodes Mentioned:
From Escalation to Calm
Stop Sidestepping Conflict
Links:
Free Guide: Change Your Stories, Change Your Relationship
100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection
30 Days to Us - All New Connection Challenge
More Than Roommates Challenge
Relationship Repair Program
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The “I Guess I’ll Never…” Trap – Breaking Free from All-or-Nothing Thinking
What do you do when a partner replies with “Well, I guess I’ll just never … again” after you share something with them?
In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her co-host Greg answer this question and talk about how to respond to a partner’s "all or nothing" statement in response to a concern raised. Dr. Tracy talks about the underlying emotion in this expression, provides strategies for having a constructive conversation in that situation, and how to break out of this tricky cycle that stops couples from feeling close and connected.
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Why I Had to Change, My Next Big Project, and the F-er Cake—Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy!
It’s here! Season 6 of the podcast is launching with a brand-new name: Dear Dr. Tracy! In this episode, Dr. Tracy’s pulling back the curtain on why she made this change, what it means for the future of the show, and how she’s stepping outside her comfort zone to bring you even deeper, more real conversations about relationships, resentment, intimacy, and all the messy in-between moments.
Dr. Tracy discusses why the name change, how you can be part of the show, what’s been going on behind the scenes, a parenting moment she didn’t sign up for (and why she got a cake for it), and what’s coming this season.
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Stop Sidestepping Conflict: How to Embrace Disagreements and Grow Stronger Together
Have you ever felt the urge to bite your tongue when something’s bothering you—just to keep the peace? Would you describe yourself as a conflict avoider? Or maybe your partner is a conflict avoider.
In this episode, we dive into the real reasons behind conflict avoidance, uncovering how silent resentments can take a toll on your mental well-being and your bond with your partner. We’ll explore why we often dodge difficult conversations, the long-term impact on both individuals and couples, and share practical steps to move from avoidance to constructive communication.
Whether you’re struggling with unspoken irritations or seeking a healthier way to handle everyday disagreements, this conversation will help you and your partner break the cycle of conflict avoidance. Tune in as we discuss how small (but powerful) shifts can lead to deeper emotional connection and relationship growth. Don’t miss out on these essential insights to transform conflict into a powerful tool for building trust, respect, and closeness.
Links:
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Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy, the podcast that helps you navigate the everyday challenges of relationships, marriage, and parenting with expert advice and real, relatable conversations. Hosted by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this podcast is your place for honest, no-nonsense guidance on love, intimacy, boundaries, and communication. With over 18 years of experience, Dr. Tracy brings a mix of clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and personal insights as a wife and mother to help you break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections. Each week, Dr. Tracy answers the questions so many of us have but don’t always know how to ask—about resentment, desire, mental load, and how to truly feel like a team with your partner. She’s joined by fellow experts, real couples, and her husband Greg, who offers a down-to-earth perspective on the struggles so many relationships face. If you’re ready for actionable tools and heartfelt conversations that will help you create a relationship that feels fulfilling, this podcast is for you.
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