The SEND Mum Club

It’s a special episode this week because I’ve got a couple on! Clare & Carl Graham join me to talk about their daughter Odette who has Down syndrome and cerebral palsy. We talk about the reality of how long acceptance can take, receiving a second diagnosis, comparison on social media and the impact all of that can have on your mental health.
Clare & Carl are both really open about how they’ve struggled mentally and what therapy looked like for both of them. 
Carl mentions men’s mental health charity Sean’s Place in this episode who do incredible work with men living in Liverpool and Sefton. You can find them here:
https://seansplace.org.uk/

You can find Carl on social media here:
Instagram: @carlinstagraham
TikTok: @carlgsendad

My guest this week is a special one because she’s one of my besties! Ani and I have been friends for nearly 22 years and she was one of my bridesmaids when she was pregnant with her daughter Melyn. After Melyn was born Ani and her partner found out she was deaf. In this episode we talk about the importance of allowing yourself to sit in the grief of a diagnosis, self preservation when researching a diagnosis, and the decision to go ahead with surgery for cochlear implants and what that now means for Melyn.
Ani is a (fabulous) musician and she also discusses how she’s making her music and performances more inclusive for the deaf community. You can find out all about Ani’s music - and buy some merch – here:
https://aniglass.bandcamp.com/music

Instagram: @ani_glass

Francesca Morgan joins me on this episode to talk about her 3 year old daughter Shania who has Down syndrome. We discuss her traumatic birth experience, followed by receiving Shania’s diagnosis in the wrong way, and feeling let down by multiple people involved in their care over the first couple of weeks.
After unsuccessfully looking for SEN baby groups Francesca decided to set up her own and we talk about what that’s gone on to become and how important it is to have that peer support from people who get it
Tags: additional needs, SEN parent, SEN support group

It’s another expert episode this week and I’m joined by Claire from The SEN Expert to answer your questions on all things SEN. We talk about how to get an EHCP if your child isn’t in school or nursery yet, appealing a DLA decision, EBSA (emotional based school avoidance), the challenges of trying to work and care for a child with complex needs and much more.
 Claire talks about the legal test in the SEND code of practice in the episode:
Key Aspects of the Legal Test

Definition: A child has SEN if they have a significantly greater difficulty in learning than others of the same age, or a disability preventing them from using standard educational facilities.

Assessment Criteria: The local authority must consider evidence of academic attainment, the nature/extent of SEN, actions already taken by the school, and the child's health/developmental needs.

"May Need" Threshold: The test is whether special provision may be necessary, not whether it is definitively required immediately.

Evidence Basis: It is not necessary to have a formal diagnosis for an EHC assessment to be agreed. 

You can find The SEN Expert here:
Instagram: @senexpert
TikTok: @thesenexpert
www.thesenexpert.co.uk

My guest this week is Paul Triggs, talking about his 8 year old daughter Violet who has autism. We talk about their journey to diagnosis, Violet’s sensory needs, and the positive affect her autism has on her siblings. Paul also talks about the footwear and fashion brand he’s set up – Through Different Eyes – through which he hopes to offer paid employment to people with additional needs.
 You can find Through Different Eyes in store in Transalpino in Liverpool or online here:
https://www.throughdifferenteyes.co.uk/

www.instagram.com/through_different_eyes_/

 Tags: sensory processing disorder, EHCP, SEN, parenting podcast