ADHD Untangled

Do you ever wonder how your ADHD impacts your sex life?You are not alone. ADHD doesn't magically switch off when the clothes come off.

Maybe you get bored. Maybe your mind wanders. Maybe you're masking so much that even during intimacy, you're still performing instead of actually being present. Or maybe porn, dopamine and self-pleasure play a much bigger role in your life than you've ever stopped to think about.

Because ADHD doesn't magically switch off when the clothes come off.

When we get an ADHD diagnosis, it becomes the vehicle we use to unmask in every area of our lives. But what never gets spoken about is how the hell we do that when it comes to the bedroom.

As this week's guest, sex, love and relationship coach Liz Hunter, puts it: you can mask in life, you can put on a performance in life, but in the bedroom, all of it gets exposed.

So let's find out, shall we? Let's untangle all things ADHD & sex (without going red):
🔥 Porn: what role does dopamine play, and when does porn become more than just entertainment?
🎭 Masking in the bedroom: are you actually being yourself during sex, or are you still trying to perform, please and meet someone else's expectations?
🥱 Bored in the bedroom: what happens when novelty wears off? Can an ADHD brain struggle with routine, even when it comes to sex and intimacy?
🧠 The ADHD brain and desire: why distraction, stimulation and the constant search for dopamine can all show up in the bedroom
❤️ Self-pleasure: what can exploring your own body teach you about what you actually want, need and enjoy?
💬 Communication and shame: how do you start talking about sex when you've spent years feeling like there's something wrong with the way you experience it?

Why listen?

Sex is supposed to be one of those things we're all comfortable talking about.

Except… we're not.

Add ADHD into the mix and suddenly there can be boredom, distraction, masking, shame, dopamine-seeking and a whole lot of questions that nobody seems to be asking out loud.

So we're asking them.

Whether you're single, dating, in a long-term relationship, questioning your relationship with porn, struggling to stay present during intimacy or simply curious about how ADHD might be showing up in your sex life, then this episode is for you.

No judgement. No shame. Just an honest conversation about sex, ADHD, pleasure and everything that comes with it.

Because understanding your ADHD shouldn't stop at work, relationships and organisation.

Sometimes, it needs to follow you all the way into the bedroom.

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Do you think you're too chaotic to meditate? Attempted it and failed, time and time again

I hear you. I thought exactly the same the first time I sat down to meditate.

Then I ran off to India with two weeks notice, and this week's guest, Rohil Jethmalani, met me there. He was the first person who showed me the real benefits of meditation, yoga, morning routines, even vegetarian food… and for maybe the first time in my life, a genuine sense of peace.

He's a yoga teacher, an Ayurvedic thinker, and honestly one of the most quietly enlightened humans I've ever sat with.

Since then I've had my ADHD diagnosis. And seeing as I was in Bali, where he now lives, I wanted to know… what does a man rooted in a 5,000 year old yogic tradition actually think when he hears the word ADHD?

That's exactly where we open Season 7.

So what are we waiting for? Let's untangle all things ADHD & spirituality:
🌪 Is ADHD just a Vata imbalance? The scattered energy, the racing mind, the inability to land anywhere for long… Ayurveda named it thousands of years ago
💊 Medication, his belief that modern medicine is failing us, and a big question from our community: is the wellness world too proud to admit we're still struggling when the practice isn't enough?
🏷 Labels, identity and non attachment (Aparigraha)… I love my ADHD label, so does letting go of attachment mean letting go of that too?
🧘 Can't meditate, won't meditate: what to do when stillness sounds like complete hell to your ADHD brain
🔥 Ego death: what it actually is, whether an ordinary person in a messy flat can reach it, and why the ADHD brain might be closer to it than most people realise.

Why listen?

If you've ever thought yoga or a spiritual path just isn't for you… you're not flexible enough, not calm enough, too chaotic, too in your head… but something keeps quietly pulling you towards it, this one is for you. And if you're stuck in a shame spiral right now, telling yourself the same old negative story, Rohil shares the most powerful thing you can do to break it.

You don't need to become a monk. You don't need 30 years in an ashram. You just need a way in that works with your brain… and this conversation might be it.

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How many times have you thought about closing down your business this month? This week? Today?Every single hand went up when I asked four female ADHD founders that question. Because here's what nobody posts on Instagram: running a business with ADHD is the quickest way to figure out how your ADHD shows up as both a struggle AND a strength.In this raw, honest, and hilarious live panel, I sat down with Jess (Sacred and Wild), Cat (Yogi Bare), Katie France (Love Bomb Bags), and Natt (Waking Dreams) to talk about the reality of being a female founder with ADHD.We talk about people-pleasing that nearly cost Cat her entire business, Katie's struggle with posting out the right bags to the right people (executive function is REAL), why having two ADHD brains in business together means you might "accidentally commit fraud," and how Jess's perfectionism has kept years of work hidden from the world.But we also talk about why none of us go back. Why the 9-5 isn't an option for brains wired like ours. Why freedom matters more than money. And why, despite everything, we keep showing up.Natt drops the mic with: "Your ADHD would not even be a talking point without capitalism."And Jess reminds us all: "I see the work people put out into the world and I just think, bloody well done. I don't judge it. I just really respect people trying and just being out there doing it."This one's for every woman who's ever felt like giving up but keeps showing up anyway.IN THIS EPISODE:✨ Why we all threaten to quit (regularly)✨ How people-pleasing can cost you everything✨ Executive function struggles are not stupidity✨ The reality of working with other ADHDers✨ How perfectionism keeps you stuck✨ Why we can't go back to corporate burnout✨ The real reason we keep going (it's not money)✨ Why capitalism makes ADHD "problematic"✨ Taking a day off is productive, actually✨ Giving yourself the same grace you give other womenFour incredible women. Four thriving businesses. Four ADHD brains refusing to dim down.Generator. Alive. Colourful. Chaotic.Not broken. Not struggling. Not failing.Bloody well done for just doing it.

For decades, women with ADHD have been told they're "just anxious," "just depressed," or "just stressed." Meanwhile, their physical symptoms - heavy periods, migraines, gut issues, dizziness when standing - have been dismissed as separate problems.

They're not. They're all connected.

Dr. Asad Raffi has assessed thousands of ADHD women and discovered something revolutionary: ADHD is a brain-body condition. The female presentation doesn't even resemble what's in the diagnostic manuals. So how is a clinician using a checklist going to diagnose any woman? They can't. And they haven't.

In this raw and honest conversation, Dr. Asad explains why 50%+ of women sitting in GP waiting rooms could actually have undiagnosed ADHD, why the medical system has failed women for so long, and what actually needs to change.

We explore the micro-fractures of accumulated trauma, why ADHD can look like complex PTSD, the "whole heap of shit" happening beneath the surface that single-lens diagnosis misses, and the critical importance of understanding hormones, inflammation, and the brain-body connection.

And in the most moving moment of the interview, when asked what he said to his teenage daughter when she got diagnosed with ADHD, his answer was simple:

"Welcome to the club."

This conversation will change how you see ADHD, your body, and yourself.

IN THIS EPISODE:
✨ Why physical symptoms are the primary indicator of ADHD in women
✨ The connection between hormones, inflammation, and brain health
✨ Why women have been chronically misdiagnosed for decades
✨ ADHD vs complex PTSD - understanding micro-fractures and accumulated trauma
✨ Why looking at ADHD from a singular lens will always get it wrong
✨ The importance of community, connection, and reaching out
✨ What he told his daughter when she was diagnosed

Dr. Asad Raffi is a leading consultant psychiatrist, founder of Sanctum Healthcare, and father of three girls. His mission was born from his daughter's ADHD diagnosis - and he's determined that no woman is left misunderstood.

You know those thoughts that pop into your head? "What if I just opened this car door on the motorway?" Or "If I don't touch that lamppost in 10 seconds, someone I love will die."

Adam Lind lived with intrusive thoughts so severe, he'd wake up every morning thinking "what's the point?" — until he discovered he wasn't his mind. And he proved it by hitchhiking across 26 countries with £5,000 and a backpack.

This conversation goes deep: from OCD and health anxiety, to why external freedom (living on a narrowboat, travelling the world) means nothing if you're still trapped inside your head. Adam shares how he went from existential spiraling to creating a life of genuine human connection — and why your intrusive thoughts might actually be trying to protect you.

If you've ever felt like your mind is holding you hostage, or you're chasing freedom in all the wrong places, this episode will completely shift your perspective.

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Alt version if you want shorter/punchier:

INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS: The Man Who Proved You're Not Your Mind

"What if I opened this car door right now?" "If I don't touch that lamppost, my mom will die."

Adam Lind's intrusive thoughts were so severe, he couldn't function. Until he hitchhiked across 26 countries and discovered something therapy couldn't teach him: You are not your mind.

This is the conversation about what happens when you chase external freedom (narrowboat life, traveling the world) but you're still trapped inside your head — and how to finally break free.