ADHD Untangled

Mother, Listen to This | Angela Heap

Do you ever wonder how much your ADHD has shaped your fertility story?

Maybe you're single, late thirties, and everyone else seems to have made a decision you're still circling. Maybe you froze your eggs and still don't know if it was the right call. Or maybe you've quietly decided you can't look after a baby when you can barely look after yourself.

Because that's the fertility blind spot. ADHD shapes how we plan, who we choose and how long we take to decide. And the clock doesn't wait for a diagnosis.

This week's guest is Angela Heap, a fertility nutritionist who has spent 18 years helping women get pregnant and stay pregnant. She was diagnosed with ADHD late, took three goes to get her A levels, failed her first year at university and spent 15 years on and off in a relationship she says took a lot of her fertile years with it. She isn't a mother herself. By the time egg freezing was an option, she was 40.

I know this one from the inside. At 30, a blood test told me I had the fertility of almost a 40 year old. I froze my eggs three times, not knowing what I was walking into or that I had ADHD. Nearly eight years on, I still haven't used them.

As Angela puts it: that egg count isn't a reflection of your overall fertility. It's a reflection of your overall health.

So let's untangle all things ADHD and fertility:
🧡 The blind spot: why nobody talks to single, late diagnosed women about fertility, why we're more likely to have unplanned pregnancies, and the shame that follows
🔸 Your fertile years: when does fertility really drop, and how much is genes versus lifestyle? (Angela has seen clients do better with IVF at 42 than at 39)
🔥 Egg counting: what the AMH test actually measures, who brought it in, and why a low number isn't the end of the story
💰 Egg freezing: what the injections do to your body, what happens when the eggs are thawed, and what it really costs
🧠 ADHD in the clinic: why a crusty old protocol sheet isn't enough for our brains, why synthetic hormones can hit us harder, and what to do (and not do) in the three months before you start
💬 Myths round: does fertility fall off a cliff at 35? Can perimenopause start in your thirties? Plus the one test to ask your GP for

Why listen?
There's a lot of conversation about ADHD and motherhood. There's almost none about the years before it.

The time blindness, the wrong relationships, the decisions we didn't know we were making. And the women now blaming themselves for all of it.

Whether you're single and wondering if you've left it too late, deciding whether to freeze your eggs, already trying and struggling, or a late diagnosed woman finally connecting the dots, this episode is for you.

Angela's message to the ADHD woman who feels like she's run out of time? Do the tests. See where you are now. Based on a statistic, you are not a statistic.

Because you deserve all the information before you make these choices, not after. Nobody has been having this conversation. Let's hope they do now.

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Do you have a dream you keep talking yourself out of?

Maybe you've been told it's not realistic. Maybe one bad piece of feedback shut you down for years. Maybe you had one brilliant idea and quietly decided it was the only one you'd ever get.

Because that's what fear of failure does. It doesn't stop you dreaming. It stops you starting.

This week's guest is Rosalie Boonstra, a Dutch couture designer and artist who makes the big, bold, fabulous gowns you see on red carpets and stages. One of her dresses landed on the cover of Vogue NL (on her 25th birthday, no less). She's won an award, she's won a TV show, and she's worked with brands, museums and filmmakers.

She was also bullied at school, doubted by her friends, knocked down at art school and diagnosed with ADHD in her late twenties.

And when that Vogue cover happened? Her first thought wasn't celebration. It was "why am I here?"

As Rosalie puts it: it sometimes takes a lot of time and the right people to find out you're not a failure.

So let's untangle ADHD and bringing your dreams to life:
🧡 Fear of failure: how do you keep creating when you've spent years being told you're not good enough?
🎨 Creating for you: what happens when you stop making what people liked last time and start making what you actually want to make?
🔸 Finding your people: where do you look when nobody around you gets it? (Rosalie found hers on Instagram) 💬 Feedback: why one negative comment can block an ADHD brain completely, and how it should be given instead
🧠 RSD: the three questions that tell you if you've got it, and the one thing Rosalie does now to get out of the spiral quicker
💰 ADHD in business: holding your price, describing your value, collaboration over competition, and the two things she'd tell any ADHD founder

Why listen?

We're the ones with all the ideas. That's the bit everyone loves to say about ADHD.

What nobody says is how many of those ideas never leave our heads. Because someone once told us we weren't good enough, and we believed them.

Whether you're a creative scared to switch careers, a late diagnosed woman who's been called too much, a founder who wants to shut the whole thing down every week, or an ADHDer with a dream you've been quietly sitting on, this episode is for you.

Rosalie's advice for the founder about to give up? Look for the real problem. Then ask for help.

Because the world doesn't need another beige copy of everyone else. It needs the bold, weird, too much version of you.

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Do you ever wonder how your ADHD impacts your sex life?You are not alone. ADHD doesn't magically switch off when the clothes come off.

Maybe you get bored. Maybe your mind wanders. Maybe you're masking so much that even during intimacy, you're still performing instead of actually being present. Or maybe porn, dopamine and self-pleasure play a much bigger role in your life than you've ever stopped to think about.

Because ADHD doesn't magically switch off when the clothes come off.

When we get an ADHD diagnosis, it becomes the vehicle we use to unmask in every area of our lives. But what never gets spoken about is how the hell we do that when it comes to the bedroom.

As this week's guest, sex, love and relationship coach Liz Hunter, puts it: you can mask in life, you can put on a performance in life, but in the bedroom, all of it gets exposed.

So let's find out, shall we? Let's untangle all things ADHD & sex (without going red):
🔥 Porn: what role does dopamine play, and when does porn become more than just entertainment?
🎭 Masking in the bedroom: are you actually being yourself during sex, or are you still trying to perform, please and meet someone else's expectations?
🥱 Bored in the bedroom: what happens when novelty wears off? Can an ADHD brain struggle with routine, even when it comes to sex and intimacy?
🧠 The ADHD brain and desire: why distraction, stimulation and the constant search for dopamine can all show up in the bedroom
❤️ Self-pleasure: what can exploring your own body teach you about what you actually want, need and enjoy?
💬 Communication and shame: how do you start talking about sex when you've spent years feeling like there's something wrong with the way you experience it?

Why listen?

Sex is supposed to be one of those things we're all comfortable talking about.

Except… we're not.

Add ADHD into the mix and suddenly there can be boredom, distraction, masking, shame, dopamine-seeking and a whole lot of questions that nobody seems to be asking out loud.

So we're asking them.

Whether you're single, dating, in a long-term relationship, questioning your relationship with porn, struggling to stay present during intimacy or simply curious about how ADHD might be showing up in your sex life, then this episode is for you.

No judgement. No shame. Just an honest conversation about sex, ADHD, pleasure and everything that comes with it.

Because understanding your ADHD shouldn't stop at work, relationships and organisation.

Sometimes, it needs to follow you all the way into the bedroom.

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Do you think you're too chaotic to meditate? Attempted it and failed, time and time again

I hear you. I thought exactly the same the first time I sat down to meditate.

Then I ran off to India with two weeks notice, and this week's guest, Rohil Jethmalani, met me there. He was the first person who showed me the real benefits of meditation, yoga, morning routines, even vegetarian food… and for maybe the first time in my life, a genuine sense of peace.

He's a yoga teacher, an Ayurvedic thinker, and honestly one of the most quietly enlightened humans I've ever sat with.

Since then I've had my ADHD diagnosis. And seeing as I was in Bali, where he now lives, I wanted to know… what does a man rooted in a 5,000 year old yogic tradition actually think when he hears the word ADHD?

That's exactly where we open Season 7.

So what are we waiting for? Let's untangle all things ADHD & spirituality:
🌪 Is ADHD just a Vata imbalance? The scattered energy, the racing mind, the inability to land anywhere for long… Ayurveda named it thousands of years ago
💊 Medication, his belief that modern medicine is failing us, and a big question from our community: is the wellness world too proud to admit we're still struggling when the practice isn't enough?
🏷 Labels, identity and non attachment (Aparigraha)… I love my ADHD label, so does letting go of attachment mean letting go of that too?
🧘 Can't meditate, won't meditate: what to do when stillness sounds like complete hell to your ADHD brain
🔥 Ego death: what it actually is, whether an ordinary person in a messy flat can reach it, and why the ADHD brain might be closer to it than most people realise.

Why listen?

If you've ever thought yoga or a spiritual path just isn't for you… you're not flexible enough, not calm enough, too chaotic, too in your head… but something keeps quietly pulling you towards it, this one is for you. And if you're stuck in a shame spiral right now, telling yourself the same old negative story, Rohil shares the most powerful thing you can do to break it.

You don't need to become a monk. You don't need 30 years in an ashram. You just need a way in that works with your brain… and this conversation might be it.

Find Rohil:@shivatman.yoga

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How many times have you thought about closing down your business this month? This week? Today?Every single hand went up when I asked four female ADHD founders that question. Because here's what nobody posts on Instagram: running a business with ADHD is the quickest way to figure out how your ADHD shows up as both a struggle AND a strength.In this raw, honest, and hilarious live panel, I sat down with Jess (Sacred and Wild), Cat (Yogi Bare), Katie France (Love Bomb Bags), and Natt (Waking Dreams) to talk about the reality of being a female founder with ADHD.We talk about people-pleasing that nearly cost Cat her entire business, Katie's struggle with posting out the right bags to the right people (executive function is REAL), why having two ADHD brains in business together means you might "accidentally commit fraud," and how Jess's perfectionism has kept years of work hidden from the world.But we also talk about why none of us go back. Why the 9-5 isn't an option for brains wired like ours. Why freedom matters more than money. And why, despite everything, we keep showing up.Natt drops the mic with: "Your ADHD would not even be a talking point without capitalism."And Jess reminds us all: "I see the work people put out into the world and I just think, bloody well done. I don't judge it. I just really respect people trying and just being out there doing it."This one's for every woman who's ever felt like giving up but keeps showing up anyway.IN THIS EPISODE:✨ Why we all threaten to quit (regularly)✨ How people-pleasing can cost you everything✨ Executive function struggles are not stupidity✨ The reality of working with other ADHDers✨ How perfectionism keeps you stuck✨ Why we can't go back to corporate burnout✨ The real reason we keep going (it's not money)✨ Why capitalism makes ADHD "problematic"✨ Taking a day off is productive, actually✨ Giving yourself the same grace you give other womenFour incredible women. Four thriving businesses. Four ADHD brains refusing to dim down.Generator. Alive. Colourful. Chaotic.Not broken. Not struggling. Not failing.Bloody well done for just doing it.