Coaching Real Leaders

How do you make sure your contributions are recognized when the things you do best seem to go unnoticed?
How should you handle conflict between two employees who don't get along?
What should you do when colleagues describe you as intimidating, even though you see yourself as collaborative and approachable?
In this episode of Ask Muriel Anything, Muriel and her producer, Mary, answer listeners’ questions about navigating workplace dynamics, understanding your value, and becoming a more effective leader. They discuss how to test your assumptions about what your organization values, when to step in to address team conflict, and how to use difficult feedback to expand your leadership range without losing sight of who you are.
For further reading:
Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People) by Amy Gallo: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1647821061?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback
Why Employees Need Both Recognition and Appreciation: https://hbr.org/2019/11/why-employees-need-both-recognition-and-appreciation
How to Fix Dysfunctional Team Dynamics: https://hbr.org/podcast/2025/05/how-to-fix-dysfunctional-team-dynamics
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Read Muriel’s newest book, Leadership Unblocked: LeadershipUnblocked.com
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Today, we’re sharing an episode from Cold Call, the chart-topping management podcast from our colleagues at Harvard Business School.
Hosted by HBS Chief Marketing and Communications Officer Brian Kenny, Cold Call explores the real-world business case studies taught at HBS, with the professors who write them and often the executives and innovators who lived them. From the history of Hershey to today's biggest AI case studies, Cold Call breaks down the decisions, tradeoffs, and leadership lessons behind some of the most fascinating organizations.
In today’s episode, Harvard Business School Professor Len Schlesinger and TypeCoach President Rob Toomey join host Brian Kenny to discuss how managers can recognize and work across cognitive differences to improve team dynamics. They dig in on two team case studies where dysfunction isn’t loud or dramatic, and they explore how to address that subtle tension before it derails performance or strains relationships.
To listen to more episodes, follow Cold Call on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get podcasts.

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She’s a leader who has worked hard to grow her career, but is currently feeling held back from reaching the next level. She wants to know what she needs to do to earn a promotion, especially given the challenges she faces with her team. Host Muriel Wilkins coaches her through how to manage the tension she’s feeling, and helps consider how she can keep developing even when there’s no guarantee of promotion.
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Leadership Unblocked by Muriel Wilkins Chapter 5: LeadershipUnblocked.com
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How do I show my team I’m listening when I don’t agree with them?
How do I project confidence when I don’t know what the future holds?
How do I balance empathy with accountability?
How do I influence others when I don’t have formal authority?
In this episode, Muriel and communication expert Matt Abrahams, lecturer at Stanford Graduate School of Business and host of Think Fast, Talk Smart, answer listeners’ questions about some of the trickiest communication and leadership challenges. They discuss how to demonstrate that you’re listening without having to agree, how to communicate with confidence in uncertain situations, and how to hold people accountable without sacrificing empathy.

For further reading:
Think Fast, Talk Smart: https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/business-podcasts/think-fast-talk-smart-podcast
Matt’s book Think Faster, Talk Smarter: How to Speak Successfully When You're Put on the Spot: https://www.amazon.com/Think-Faster-Talk-Smarter-Successfully/dp/1668010305?tag=bookplease06-20&geniuslink=true
Building Influence Without Authority (Coaching Real Leaders): https://hbr.org/podcast/2021/03/building-influence-without-authority
Exerting Influence Without Authority (Harvard Business Review): https://hbr.org/2008/02/exerting-influence-without-aut
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She’s a leader who’s built a reputation for being direct, confident, and decisive. But she’s recently received feedback that her communication can create tense interactions with colleagues. Host Muriel Wilkins helps her look beyond the feedback itself to understand what’s driving those moments, and how she can exude confidence without the need to always be right.
For further reading:
The Right Way to Respond to Negative Feedback: https://hbr.org/2018/05/the-right-way-to-respond-to-negative-feedback
How to Make Sense of Conflicting Feedback on Your Leadership: https://hbr.org/2022/01/how-to-make-sense-of-conflicting-feedback-on-your-leadership
How Do I Stop Being Defensive?: https://hbr.org/podcast/2021/11/how-do-i-stop-being-defensive?
What Leaders Get Wrong About Listening: https://hbr.org/podcast/2025/06/what-leaders-get-wrong-about-listening
Leadership Unblocked Chapter 5: LeadershipUnblocked.com
Own the Room: https://us.amazon.com/Own-Room-Discover-Signature-Leadership-ebook/dp/B00BAH7PQY/ref=sr_1_2?_encoding=UTF8&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.epwJb2QC4llONZO6YeARJmJmT5QGtcapVuFP9fuTNbE.N4ouJEbmhKVyJS8dDcnMA_s1Ieg-1Da9XjVKtTDekp8&dib_tag=se&keywords=B00BBJZX2O&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1789330493&s=digital-text&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&sr=1-2

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