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Heather Garbutt is an experienced psychotherapist, relationship coach and specialist in love, intimacy and conscious relationships. With more than four decades working in emotional and mental health, she began her career in art psychotherapy before developing her work as a counsellor, couples therapist and relationship coach. 
She empowers her clients to find love, to break old patterns and to move in to their 'miravle future.'
She runs online courses and workshops.
She is also now helping people date...
Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and Conscious Uncoupling coach, trained and mentored by relationship expert Katherine Woodward Thomas. Her work helps individuals and couples understand relationship patterns, recover from heartbreak and unhealthy relationships, strengthen self-worth and create deeper, more fulfilling connections. 
She combines the depth of psychotherapy with practical transformational coaching, working with clients on areas including attachment, emotional intimacy, communication, separation and finding or sustaining loving relationships. Heather is also an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and is registered with the Health and Care Professions Council. 

Key points of the episode:
Calling in true love, dating profiles and more.
How to know whether to go on date or not.
Why "true love" is hard for a lot of us.
Her personal patterns.
The patterns that we all inherit.
The revolutionary effect this can have in a persons life.
How new knowledge is now available and is so helpful in dating.
The "women love bad guys" idea.
"Chemistry". What it really is...
The problems women have today.
Why it is ok to "test drive more than one car at the same time"
A good dating profile, from an expert.
How to "train the algorithm"
Why "upheaving" is not necessary
Tne uncanny way these things happen.
A message of hope.
Find Heather - email heather@heathergarbutt.com - if you are interested in Calling in the One, use that as the subject line.
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In this deeply moving episode, Lucy Cavendish speaks with ceramic sculptor Fiamma Montagu about the death of her daughter Ischia, who died by suicide at the age of 17, and the long, complex journey of living with grief that followed.
Fiamma shares the shock and disbelief surrounding Ischia’s death, as well as her family’s experience of the mental health system and their concerns about the support Ischia received from CAMHS and other healthcare services despite previous suicide attempts.
She talks candidly about the surreal practicalities that accompany devastating loss, from arranging a funeral while barely able to function to pursuing an inquest and trying to understand the circumstances surrounding her daughter’s death.
The conversation also explores what healing can mean when there is no simple way to “move on.” Fiamma describes the practices that have helped her continue living, including exercise, breathwork, yoga, group therapy with other parents bereaved by suicide, Buddhist retreats and pilgrimages.
At the heart of her journey has been a growing connection with spirituality, self-love and acceptance. Rather than claiming to have overcome her grief, Fiamma speaks about learning to live alongside it and, in her words, to live “gracefully.”
Lucy and Fiamma also discuss creativity and the role of art in her life. Fiamma is an accomplished ceramic sculptor whose work has included involvement with the celebrated Tower of London poppy installation, alongside new public art commissions.
A powerful conversation about motherhood, profound loss, the shortcomings families can encounter within mental health care, and the possibility of finding meaning, connection and moments of beauty after unimaginable tragedy.
In this episode
The sudden reality of losing a child to suicide
Fiamma’s experience of CAMHS and mental health services
The forthcoming inquest
Navigating funeral arrangements and an inquest while grieving
Why physical movement and breathwork became important
Finding support among other suicide-bereaved parents
Buddhism, retreats, pilgrimage and spirituality
Self-love and learning to live alongside grief
The healing role of creativity and sculpture
Fiamma’s work on the Tower of London poppy installation
Learning to live “gracefully” without pretending grief disappears
Content note: This episode contains discussion of suicide, suicide attempts, bereavement and mental health difficulties. Please listen with care.

www.fiammamontagu.co.uk
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Bel Mooney is an acclaimed British journalist, broadcaster, author and long-running newspaper columnist whose career has spanned more than five decades. Best known for her thoughtful and compassionate advice column, Bel has become one of the UK's most trusted voices on relationships, family life and the everyday challenges of being human.
A familiar face and voice across television and radio, she has presented and contributed to programmes for the BBC, ITV and Channel 4, while also writing bestselling novels, memoirs and non-fiction. Her work is known for combining warmth, honesty and sharp insight, encouraging people to navigate life's complexities with empathy and resilience.
In this episode, Bel joins Lucy to explore love, friendship, family dynamics and what truly makes relationships flourish. Drawing on a lifetime of listening to people's stories, she shares practical wisdom, heartfelt reflections and timeless advice on building deeper, more meaningful connections.

Key Points of the episode:
Her variety of accents!
Her pride in her background
Her impressive CV and working life
How she never used to read the very thing she ended up writing!
How she marries after 3 months and divorced ater 35 years.
Why she does not like the term "agony aunt"
Her love of print media
How one powerful article left a lasting legacy in the world.
Some top tips for living well.
Read her column in the Daily Mail or check her out here:
www.belmooney.co.uk, or email bel@dailymail.co.uk
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Singer, songwriter, musician and renowned ukulele teacher Sam Brown on what happened when she lost her voice - an dhow she survived it. Her loss, as she explains, was triggered by trauma; the death of her wonderful mother at a relatively young age from cancer and her own marriage breakdown.
What do you do when your world is music? Best known for her iconic hit Stop! and a remarkable career performing with artists including Pink Floyd, David Gilmour, Jools Holland, George Harrison and Elton John, Sam has sold more than three million records worldwide. Then her voice just went.
She talks of how she tried everything to get is back but to no avail.
After losing her singing voice in 2007, Sam reinvented her musical life, building a thriving community through her Fabulous Ukulele Clubs, where she now teaches hundreds of students both in person and online. Her story is one of courage, humour and finding new purpose when life takes an unexpected turn. 
In this episode, we explore the healing power of music, the importance of human connection, and how extraordinary relationships can help us navigate life's biggest challenges with hope, authenticity and joy.
 It's an inspiring conversation about creativity, resilience and the relationships that shape our lives and, of course, the International Ukelele Club of Sonning Common.. 

Key Points of the Episode:
Her relationship with her singer Dad Joe Brown
Her beginnings in the music business
The shocking twist of fate that changed her life radically.
The mind/body reason for the loss of her voice
The eventual incredible (partial) solution
The club she started that grew exponentially
Her new music releases.
Her musings on past choices
The legacy she is leaving and her message.
www.misssambrown.com
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Maggie O'Kane is a highly-acclaimed, well respected journalists and documentary filmmaker with a career spanning more than four decades. Renowned for fearless investigative reporting, she first established her reputation covering conflicts across Eastern Europe and the Balkans before becoming one of The Guardian's most acclaimed foreign correspondents. Her reporting from the Siege of Sarajevo during the Bosnian War earned widespread praise for its vivid, compassionate storytelling and won her numerous journalism awards, including UK Journalist of the Year and the Amnesty International Media Award. 
After moving into documentary filmmaking, O'Kane became Editorial Director of Guardian Films, producing award-winning investigations into war crimes, human rights abuses, violence against women and global injustice. Her films have appeared on British and international broadcasters and have been recognised for combining rigorous journalism with powerful human stories. 
In recent years, Maggie O'Kane has devoted much of her work to ending Female Genital Mutilation (FGM). She helped lead The Guardian's groundbreaking global campaign against FGM, using journalism not simply to report the issue but to amplify the voices of survivors and frontline campaigners. The initiative highlighted the experiences of women and girls across Africa, the Middle East and migrant communities worldwide, bringing international attention to the issue through documentaries, investigations and public campaigns. 
Today she serves as Executive Director and co-founder of the Global Media Campaign to End FGM and is also Executive Director of Frontline Ending FGM. Working alongside grassroots organisations across multiple African countries, she champions locally led solutions, supports survivor networks, develops media campaigns and helps strengthen systems that protect girls at risk. Her approach has been widely recognised for placing affected communities, rather than outside organisations, at the centre of efforts to eradicate FGM. 
Throughout her career, Maggie O'Kane has demonstrated how journalism can do more than inform. By exposing injustice, giving a platform to survivors and helping drive international action, she has shown the powerful role investigative reporting can play in advancing human rights. Her work on FGM stands as one of the most significant examples of journalism being used as a catalyst for lasting social change.

Her list of professional accolades, and what she pioneers now.
Her backstory and how it all began.
Her story of being a "refugee from Belfast"
A meaningful coincidence.
The most dramatic situations she has been in.
How she felt invincible.
Why she was familiar with ethnic cleansing from her childhood, so could see through the lies in Yugoslavia.
The most terrifying experience of her life.
Why she should not have gone back to Belfast, but did 5 years later with her family.
The miscarriages she had (5).
Her dinner with Peter Mandelson.
Her experience with Nelson Mandela.
Her experience at a Buddhist retreat.
An exclusive and deeply honest reveal.
Her incredible work in the FGM world.
...and what needs to change...
But how they are passionately campaigning with a beautiful, celebratory campaign.
New laws being passed (albeit slowly)
www.globalmediacampaign.org

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