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Have you ever felt life really cannot get much worse?
Has it left you wondering that you will never ever be able to claw your back in to a life that resembles something that is working? That is good? That is happy?
Sarah Hiscox has been on that place. Through eating disorders, addiction, drying out clinics, loss... she has experienced it all. She describes a childhood full of desperation to love and be loved, to fit in, to be admired. She once started at a new school and said her father was the tennis player Bjorn Borg...
Her life spiralled out of control. She lost her marriage, her children, her friends... heroin became her friend. 
All of this she describes in her book The Beginning and End of Everything.  It is a deeply personal memoir chronicling her journey through childhood insecurity, eating disorders, heroin addiction and ultimately recovery. With honesty, courage and humour, she explores the impact of addiction on her marriage, children and relationships, and how she rebuilt her life through self-awareness, acceptance and personal growth. Her story is one of resilience, reconciliation and hope, demonstrating that recovery and transformation are possible even after life's darkest chapters.
And she talks about this with amazing openess and honesty
Key Points from the Interview
Childhood and self-worth: Growing up with alcoholic and emotionally unavailable parents left Sarah feeling that she was never good enough.
Escaping into fantasy: As a child, she invented stories about her family, including claiming tennis star Björn Borg was her father, to feel accepted.
Family relationships: Her complicated relationships with her parents and sister shaped her emotional development and later relationships.
Searching for love: Childhood insecurity contributed to patterns of choosing emotionally unavailable partners.
Bulimia and shame: Sarah discusses her struggles with bulimia and the secrecy and shame surrounding eating disorders.
Heroin addiction: What initially seemed to offer relief from emotional pain and bulimia developed into a devastating addiction.
Impact on her family: Addiction damaged her marriage and relationships with her children, despite her efforts to maintain an outwardly normal life.
The road to recovery: Sarah describes repeated attempts to get clean and the determination required to achieve lasting sobriety.
The gift of desperation: Reaching a point where change becomes essential can provide powerful motivation for recovery.
Overcoming shame: Sarah explains how she has learned to stop defining herself by her past and practise self-compassion.
Recovery and personal growth: Support groups, honesty, self-awareness and challenging negative self-talk have helped her build a healthier life.
Writing her memoir: Sharing her story became an important part of understanding her experiences and helping others.
Hope and redemption: Sarah's journey demonstrates the possibility of rebuilding relationships, finding peace and creating a fulfilling life after addiction.
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Have you ever wondered why your intimate love life is struggling?
Have you ever wondered how to improve your relationship, come back in to connection, get closer?
Do you have a 'difficult' relationship with your body? With other people's bodies?
In this episode of How To Have Extraordinary Relationships, I talk to Jan Day, a leading UK Tantra teacher, relationship expert, intimacy coach and personal development facilitator, who specialises in conscious relationships, emotional intimacy, authentic connection and sexual wellbeing.
With over 25 years of experience, Jan has helped individuals and couples explore Tantra, love, sexuality, self-awareness, emotional healing and deeper relationships through her transformational workshops, retreats and coaching.
Jan is the author of Living Tantra: A Journey into Sex, Spirit and Relationship, exploring how Tantra and conscious intimacy can help people overcome emotional barriers, build trust, deepen connection and enjoy more fulfilling, loving relationships.
In this podcast, Jan shares insights into Tantric practices, intimacy, vulnerability, relationship challenges, personal growth and the connection between sexuality and spirituality.
Discover more at www.janday.com.

Key points of the episode:
Neo Tantra, what is it?
How we can use everything to grow and come back to our selves.
How we can include (happily!) sex, but not just sex, everything.
The lack of sexuality education, or even body awareness most of us got when we were growing up.
Her various journeys on healing her relationship to self and her sexuality.
The mentors and teachers on her journey and how they all formed part of her path.
The importance of the word "No" and how we need to feel empowered and safe to use it as early as possible.
Her early studies that did not include sex at all.
Her "message from the Universe" about sex.
Her work with adult attachment patterns
How singles are welcome in her workshops and sometimes get better results than couples (and why)
How trauma can come up as well.
Holding strong professional standards so people can feel safe.
How we need to talk about sex more
The importance of loving our bodies AND sexuality.
Unlearning the negative messages about spirituality.

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Heather Garbutt is an experienced psychotherapist, relationship coach and specialist in love, intimacy and conscious relationships. With more than four decades working in emotional and mental health, she began her career in art psychotherapy before developing her work as a counsellor, couples therapist and relationship coach. 
She empowers her clients to find love, to break old patterns and to move in to their 'miravle future.'
She runs online courses and workshops.
She is also now helping people date...
Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and Conscious Uncoupling coach, trained and mentored by relationship expert Katherine Woodward Thomas. Her work helps individuals and couples understand relationship patterns, recover from heartbreak and unhealthy relationships, strengthen self-worth and create deeper, more fulfilling connections. 
She combines the depth of psychotherapy with practical transformational coaching, working with clients on areas including attachment, emotional intimacy, communication, separation and finding or sustaining loving relationships. Heather is also an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and is registered with the Health and Care Professions Council. 

Key points of the episode:
Calling in true love, dating profiles and more.
How to know whether to go on date or not.
Why "true love" is hard for a lot of us.
Her personal patterns.
The patterns that we all inherit.
The revolutionary effect this can have in a persons life.
How new knowledge is now available and is so helpful in dating.
The "women love bad guys" idea.
"Chemistry". What it really is...
The problems women have today.
Why it is ok to "test drive more than one car at the same time"
A good dating profile, from an expert.
How to "train the algorithm"
Why "upheaving" is not necessary
Tne uncanny way these things happen.
A message of hope.
Find Heather - email heather@heathergarbutt.com - if you are interested in Calling in the One, use that as the subject line.
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In this deeply moving episode, Lucy Cavendish speaks with ceramic sculptor Fiamma Montagu about the death of her daughter Ischia, who died by suicide at the age of 17, and the long, complex journey of living with grief that followed.
Fiamma shares the shock and disbelief surrounding Ischia’s death, as well as her family’s experience of the mental health system and their concerns about the support Ischia received from CAMHS and other healthcare services despite previous suicide attempts.
She talks candidly about the surreal practicalities that accompany devastating loss, from arranging a funeral while barely able to function to pursuing an inquest and trying to understand the circumstances surrounding her daughter’s death.
The conversation also explores what healing can mean when there is no simple way to “move on.” Fiamma describes the practices that have helped her continue living, including exercise, breathwork, yoga, group therapy with other parents bereaved by suicide, Buddhist retreats and pilgrimages.
At the heart of her journey has been a growing connection with spirituality, self-love and acceptance. Rather than claiming to have overcome her grief, Fiamma speaks about learning to live alongside it and, in her words, to live “gracefully.”
Lucy and Fiamma also discuss creativity and the role of art in her life. Fiamma is an accomplished ceramic sculptor whose work has included involvement with the celebrated Tower of London poppy installation, alongside new public art commissions.
A powerful conversation about motherhood, profound loss, the shortcomings families can encounter within mental health care, and the possibility of finding meaning, connection and moments of beauty after unimaginable tragedy.
In this episode
The sudden reality of losing a child to suicide
Fiamma’s experience of CAMHS and mental health services
The forthcoming inquest
Navigating funeral arrangements and an inquest while grieving
Why physical movement and breathwork became important
Finding support among other suicide-bereaved parents
Buddhism, retreats, pilgrimage and spirituality
Self-love and learning to live alongside grief
The healing role of creativity and sculpture
Fiamma’s work on the Tower of London poppy installation
Learning to live “gracefully” without pretending grief disappears
Content note: This episode contains discussion of suicide, suicide attempts, bereavement and mental health difficulties. Please listen with care.

www.fiammamontagu.co.uk
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Bel Mooney is an acclaimed British journalist, broadcaster, author and long-running newspaper columnist whose career has spanned more than five decades. Best known for her thoughtful and compassionate advice column, Bel has become one of the UK's most trusted voices on relationships, family life and the everyday challenges of being human.
A familiar face and voice across television and radio, she has presented and contributed to programmes for the BBC, ITV and Channel 4, while also writing bestselling novels, memoirs and non-fiction. Her work is known for combining warmth, honesty and sharp insight, encouraging people to navigate life's complexities with empathy and resilience.
In this episode, Bel joins Lucy to explore love, friendship, family dynamics and what truly makes relationships flourish. Drawing on a lifetime of listening to people's stories, she shares practical wisdom, heartfelt reflections and timeless advice on building deeper, more meaningful connections.

Key Points of the episode:
Her variety of accents!
Her pride in her background
Her impressive CV and working life
How she never used to read the very thing she ended up writing!
How she marries after 3 months and divorced ater 35 years.
Why she does not like the term "agony aunt"
Her love of print media
How one powerful article left a lasting legacy in the world.
Some top tips for living well.
Read her column in the Daily Mail or check her out here:
www.belmooney.co.uk, or email bel@dailymail.co.uk
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