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Dr Susannah Self is a British composer, conductor and former mezzo soprano whose work spans opera, orchestral music and choral composition. 
She is a highly successful woman in what is predominantly a man's world. Her compositions garner international acclaim.
After an international singing career of more than 25 years, she turned her focus to composition, earning both an MPhil from the University of Cambridge and a PhD in Composition from Birmingham Conservatoire. She originally trained at the Royal College of Music, where she studied singing, composition and conducting, and also received scholarships from the Royal Society of Arts and the Banff Centre in Canada, where she worked with the pioneering composer John Cage. 
Self has composed four operas, including The Butt, based on Will Self's novel and premiered at the Musiktheatertage Festival in Vienna, and Quilt Song, first performed in Birmingham in 2018. Her orchestral catalogue includes four symphonies, two of which have been recorded by the Moravian Philharmonic Orchestra. Her music has been commissioned by organisations including the Arts Council England, Birmingham Opera Company, Birmingham Contemporary Music Group and the Spitalfields Festival, and is published by Composers Edition. 
Alongside her composing, Dr Self teaches at Junior Guildhall and has conducted numerous operatic productions. As a performer, she appeared with leading opera companies across Europe, including the Royal Opera House, Glyndebourne, Opera North and the Vlaamse Opera, singing a wide repertoire from Mozart and Britten to Philip Glass and contemporary works. Today, she continues to combine composition, conducting and education while championing new music and opera.

Key points of the episode:
Her life, composing and life in a man's world.
Is her world as glamourous as it looks?
How she was originally advised to be an opera singer and why.
How employment differs in the UK and Europe and the best way to succeed.
What she was like as a little 3 year old girl
How women composers were discouraged.
The flow state of composing.
The therapy she went through - Jungian style.
The delicious response her therapist had to her doubts.
Her amazing relationship with her "perfect match" partner
How composers earn money (at the top)
....and not.
Conducter - or poet?
How she makes a living- the same as the greats..
Her sense of and interest in spirituality, but not religion as such.
How brave you have to be- self daring
What she would say to her 3 year old self.
See her on her publishers websites
Composers Edition << UK
Universal Edition << Vienna
Substack
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You Tube
Soundcloud (ad free)

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Kathryn Flett is one of Britain's best known journalists, critics and memoirists. 
In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Kathryn discusses the unimaginable loss of her son Jackson and the long, complex journey through grief that followed. With extraordinary openness, she explores the many different shades of grief experienced by everyone involved, why she initially believed the police officer at her door was "talking nonsense", and why real life bore little resemblance to television, right down to there being just one police officer delivering the devastating news.
She speaks candidly about the level of demonstrative love she found herself needing, the well-meaning but often "wrong" ways people responded, and the painful "reconfiguration of the address book" as friendships and relationships changed forever.
She also recounts the emotional impact of the inquest, the unexpected shock that followed, and the slow, tentative process of re-entering the world through what she describes as "baby steps". It is an honest, compassionate and ultimately hopeful conversation about surviving the unsurvivable, finding a way forward, and learning to live alongside grief rather than trying to outrun it.
Kathryn reflects on the role of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) therapy in helping her process trauma, why she came to see blame as an unhelpful emotion, and the complicated aftermath that follows a sudden loss. 
A former editor of Arena magazine and a long-time columnist for The Observer, The Guardian and other national publications, she has built a reputation for combining razor-sharp wit with remarkable emotional honesty. She is currently a Daily Mail's TV critic.

Key points of the episode:
The tragic story of how she lost her son.
The different shades of grief experienced by all concerned.
Why, when the police came, she did not immediately realise the seriousness of the situation.
How she felt the policeman was "talking nonsense"
Her treatment of EMDR- "Eye Movement Desensitiving (and) Reprocessing. 
Why there was only one police officer at the door (unlike on TV)
Why blame she felt was an unhelpful emotion.
The complicated aftermath.
The level of demonstrative love that she needed.
The "Wrong" ways people responded.
The "reconfiguration of the address book."
The inquest. And then the next shock.
The re-entering the world. Baby Steps 
Check out her TV in the Daily Mail or ...
kathrynflett.substack.com

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Dr Stella Duffy OBE is an existential psychotherapist, award-winning writer, speaker and theatremaker with a career spanning therapy, literature and the arts. Alongside her private practice, she has worked in NHS cancer support, hospice bereavement services and community mental health, helping people navigate life's biggest challenges with warmth, honesty and compassion. 
Awarded an OBE for Services to the Arts, Stella is also the author of 17 novels, more than 70 short stories and numerous plays. Her doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy focused on the embodied experience of post-menopause, reflecting her passion for exploring what it means to live a rich, authentic and meaningful life. 
Expect an engaging, thought-provoking evening as Stella shares insights into the human condition, resilience, creativity, and how we can all make better sense of ourselves and the lives we lead.
Key Points of the Episode:
How she was the first person in her family to finish secondary school!
Existential therapy- she practises it- what is it?
How she has been in therapy herself 3 times in her life.
Her experience with cancer.
Her first experience of existential therapy and how she encountered it.
Her experience of the self help movement.
Her current practise (hint - slowwwwww down!)
Why she is such a "doer"
Her thoughts on education and its privilege.
Her thoughts and statistics on menopause and the importance of supporting women. (an old school view but still very relevant)
 The problem with current cultural attitudes
What was really happening during the hunter/gathering period.
Her new book.
Sexuality and the freedom after menopause.
The benefits of an existential outlook on life.
A motivational message.

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Luke Jennings is the bestselling author and journalist whose self-published Villanelle novellas became the global phenomenon Killing Eve.
Originally released as a series of Kindle Singles, Jennings' stories introduced readers to the brilliant and terrifying assassin Villanelle and the intelligence officer obsessed with tracking her down, Eve Polastri. The books quickly attracted attention and were adapted for television by acclaimed writer and creator Phoebe Waller-Bridge. What followed was one of the most successful British television dramas of recent years.
Starring Jodie Comer and Sandra Oh, Killing Eve became a worldwide hit, winning major awards and earning a devoted international following. Jennings has described the experience of watching his creation evolve from a self-published passion project into a cultural phenomenon as both surreal and deeply rewarding.
His latest book is Killing Eve: Medusa available now - yes Oksana and Eve live on....
Long before Villanelle arrived on our screens, Luke had established himself as one of Britain's most respected journalists and critics. He wrote for The Observer, Vanity Fair and The New Yorker, developing a reputation for sharp observation, stylish prose and a fascination with extraordinary people and hidden worlds.
His novels include the Booker Prize-nominated Atlantic, as well as a wide range of fiction and non-fiction exploring subjects as varied as espionage, performance, identity, adventure and human obsession. Alongside his writing, he has also been recognised as one of Britain's leading dance critics - having trained as a ballet dancer - bringing the same insight and storytelling ability to the arts as he does to fiction.
Today, Luke continues to write, with the world of Villanelle still evolving on the page long after the television series ended. His work combines literary craftsmanship with page-turning storytelling, creating characters who are intelligent, flawed, dangerous and unforgettable.
From self-publishing a series of short novellas to inspiring one of the most talked-about television dramas of the 21st century, Luke Jennings' career is a reminder that sometimes the biggest stories begin in the most unexpected places.

Key Points of the Episode:

Why he self published his new book and how it was noticed by the right person and became a global phenomenon.
The tricky, clunky part of publishing and how the market is different
Some of the characters in the book (and who they are a bit like in the real world!)
The exciting plotliines discussed.
The momentum of his success!
The best way to do business meetings!
Where to find the book.
His books are available on Boldwood Books and Amazon

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Sandra Parsons is a British journalist, editor, author, and qualified yoga instructor best known for her wellness and longevity work, including the book Age Less and the “Ageless Method.” Formerly an editor at The Times, Sandra combines personal experience with modern health science to explore ageing, wellbeing, and lifestyle transformation. After overcoming serious health challenges, she developed a practical approach focused on nutrition, movement, rest, and mindset, aiming to help people improve both vitality and longevity. 
Her incredible biological age
What finally pushed her to change
The research she has studied
The incredible results of it.
Why smoking is still seen as "cool"
How she began to look and feel so much better.
Why she (for good reasons) felt she had to carry on working despite not feeling good.
The amazing - and most importantly doable discoveries from leading edge science.
Seriously... easy and doable!
The amazing benefits of fibre, and how it can help us.
Where to find fibre easily.
(Would you believe fibre is in raspberries?)
Small changes is the key....
....and what they lead to.
You can find Sandra on Insta
Or.. Grab the book!

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