How to have Extraordinary Relationships

• Identity, Belonging Tantra and Mermaids -Monique Roffey | (S4 E4)

  Send us a textMonique Roffey (born 1965 in Port of Spain, Trinidad) is a Trinidadian-British writer and memoirist whose work spans novels, essays and literary journalism. She studied English & Film at the University of East Anglia and earned a PhD in Creative Writing from Lancaster University. Her novels often explore themes such as identity, colonial legacy, sexual awakening, otherness, and the relationship between people and place — frequently drawing on her Caribbean heritage. Her notable works include Sun Dog (2002), The White Woman on the Green Bicycle (2009), Archipelago (2012) — which won the OCM Bocas Prize for Caribbean Literature — House of Ashes (2014), The Tryst (2017), and The Mermaid of Black Conch (2020), which won the Costa Book of the Year award. She is also a lecturer in creative writing at Manchester Metropolitan University and is active in supporting emerging writers in Trinidad and the Caribbean. Key points of the episode:Mermaids, and when and why they were dreamed up. Hint- it goes back a long way!How she does not always trust her feelings about her new book.How a small indie publisher took her book, and how she crowdfunded the publicity!Her connection to Trinidad, and its problem with femicide.Her current activism.The "Hey!" Festival she co-created and what it is.Her ongoing journey into Tantra and why she did it.www.moniqueroffey.comInsta: @moniqueroffey Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

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• When the dust settles; how to survive life changing challenges and disaster with specialist Lucy Easthope (S4 Special Episode)

  Send us a textLucy Easthope - The UK's Number One Disaster Recovery Expert!Easthope is one of the UK’s foremost experts on disaster recovery, emergency planning and the long-term aftermath of major incidents. Among her roles, she has been:Professor-in-Practice of Risk & Hazard at Durham University. Visiting Professor (Mass Fatalities & Pandemics) at the Centre for Death & Society, University of Bath.Research Associate at the Joint Centre for Disaster Research, Massey University in New Zealand. Her work spans the real-world consequences of disasters: implementation of recovery, supporting bereaved families and communities, and critiquing the “recovery myth” (the assumption that communities return to “normal” after a disaster) in her academic writing. Major works & impactIn March 2022 she published her memoir When the Dust Settles: Stories of Love, Loss and Hope from an Expert in Disaster, which brings together her experiences with major incidents (including 9/11, the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami, the 7/7 London bombings, the 2017 Grenfell Tower fire and the COVID-19 pandemic) and reflects on what recovery really means. Her work emphasizes how disasters reshape lives permanently, how response must account for human and social dimensions (not just infrastructure) and how voices of impacted people must be heard. From interviews, she speaks candidly about hope, fragility and the human dimension of her work. For example, she says:“I think one of the things is … just take incredible joy from a moment in the day … My work is one of the greatest privileges … just seeing people being great a lot. So that gives me a lot of hope."Lucy and Lucy dive deep into a fascinating conversation here:Key Points of the Episode:How she got into this line of work.A typical week in her life (it won't be like yours!)How she loves advocacy and social media.How there are more emergency planners than you might think!How some disasters are political.The "Reasonable Worst Case Scenario"How there has been an attitudinal shift towards her work.Her thoughts on Grenfell.How she feels like a "Cassandra" or seen as a "Debbie Downer"How her work has been seen as "foresight", not "hindsight"How children respond and engage differently to crisis, and the different help they need.What she has learned.Mental health maintenance and self care."Fallow" time, and the use of it.How a "slump" is a natural part of healing and it to be expected.The difference between "Hope" and "Hopeium"First response to disasters.Potential disasters people worry about.Reach Out To Lucy On:www.whatevernext.infoInsta: @whenthedustsettleslucy Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

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• Stories of Espionage and Nazi wives - The Dark Side of Life | Jane Thynne (S4 E3)

  Send us a textJane Thynne is a British novelist and journalist, best known for her historical fiction set in pre-war and wartime Germany. Born in Venezuela and educated at St Anne’s College, Oxford, she worked as a journalist for publications including The Sunday Times, The Daily Telegraph, and the BBC. Her acclaimed Clara Vine series — beginning with Black Roses (2013) — follows an Anglo-German actress drawn into espionage in 1930s Berlin, blending meticulous historical research with compelling storytelling. Writing also under the pen name C. J. Carey, she is the author of Widowland (2021), an alternative history imagining a Nazi-occupied Britain. Thynne’s novels are praised for their atmospheric detail, strong female protagonists, and exploration of politics, culture, and power in turbulent times. How Nazi women are not often talked about through history.How Magda Goebbels went from being a devoted Zionist to a committed Nazi.Her experience of living in "Widowland", and the experience of her researched "Cemetry Women"Why she stopped being a journalist for a while.The sad loss of her husband.How the experience changed her and the way she thinks.How the "Good Cop/Bad Cop" dynamic then changed with her parenting.Some fascinating WW2 history.The only correct answer to the question, "Why do you want to do this job", when being interviewed for the secret services!Why Herman Goerings brother is commemorated as Righteous Among the Nations.A fascinating example of how one mans infactuation with an actress caused thousands to die and affect world geopolitics.All her books are in good bookshops and AmazonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorJaneThynneInsta: https://www.instagram.com/janethynne_cjcarey Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

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• Sex, Death, and Living Life Outside of the Ageing Archetype…. Rose Rouse and Suzanne Noble on the Advantages of Age. (Special episode)

  Send us a textAdvantages of Age is a UK-based social enterprise and community platform founded by Rose Rouse and Suzanne Noble. Created to challenge the negative stereotypes surrounding ageing, the initiative celebrates the creativity, vitality, and entrepreneurial spirit of people over 50.Through its online magazine, workshops, and community network, Advantages of Age promotes a positive, empowered view of later life. It highlights stories of reinvention, creative expression, and business innovation, showing that ageing can be a time of growth and opportunity rather than decline.The founders bring a dynamic mix of experience to the project. Rose Rouse, a journalist, writer, and poet, has written extensively for The Guardian, The Independent and others, often exploring themes of identity, community, and social change. Suzanne Noble, an entrepreneur and jazz singer, co-founded the app Frugl and later created Startup School for Seniors, helping over-50s develop new business ventures.Together, they’ve built Advantages of Age into a movement that celebrates wisdom, creativity, and resilience—encouraging people to live fully, regardless of age.Key Points of the Episode:How it all began auspiciously in a hot tub.A feast from "Death World"Facebook Live Sessions - live from the hot tub - "Mini Salons!"The enjoyment of connecting people.The problem solving in the community they have created.The negative aspects of aging....and the positive aspects.Sex advice for mature people- and the success of a random Facebook page.How it became a massive podcast that now attracts worldwide experts.The joy of people finding their tribe.The balance of age being significant - with life experience, but not letting it define you.Some things on their bucket lists...The book, "Sex, Death and Inspiring Stories" - available on Amazon.What they would say to their younger selves.Reach out and learn more herehttps://advantagesofageawards.comhttps://suzannenoble.co.ukhttps://presenterly.com/profile/suzanne-noblehttps://www.roserouse.co.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

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• How to grieve; death, the dead and one woman’s relationship with learning how to live . Halloween special with writer Hannah Betts (S4 E2)

  Send us a textHannah Betts is an award-winning feature writer, interviewer and columnist across a range of subjects for an array of British newspapers and magazines, principally The Times and The Telegraph. She has been a journalist for almost three decades.After a career as a junior Oxford academic, Betts spent nine years at The Times, writing and editing in a number of guises, including op-ed columnist and Deputy Chief Leader Writer. She went freelance in 2007. Betts’s interests cover all aspects of the zeitgeist: not least, feminism, social and sexual mores, mental health, fashion, royalty, the arts, literature and history.Since July 2021, she has written a popular weekly column for The Daily Mail entitled: “Better…Not Younger”. She is also Senior Contributing Beauty Editor for UK Harper's Bazaar, and has consulted widely in this field. Perfume is her particular passion and expertise.She pens a monthly style column for The Critic, writes internationally for Air Mail, and is a frequent radio and documentary guest.Her interview subjects include Margaret Atwood, Taylor Swift, Jean-Paul Gaultier, Jean-Paul Guerlain and Mona Hatoum. For journalistic purposes, she has played the part of Scarlett O’Hara, Marie Antoinette, a Victorian servant, lighthouse-keeper, dairy farmer, Arctic explorer, red-carpet celebrity, naked diner and ferret handler.In 2019, Hannah Betts was awarded a President’s Medal by the Royal College of Psychiatrists for improving the lives of people with mental illness through her journalism. She is a respected voice on the subjects of depression, sobriety and relationships.Betts is a Londoner with a penchant for blue whippets. Her favourite periods are the 1590s and the 1180s BC.Key Points of the Episode:Her mental health medal and her writings on mental healthHer atheism and her thoughts on it.Why people judged her on writing about depression and the magic of "Dr. Journalism"Why she is a "Born Again Snowflake"!Her famous dog "Pimlico"Why nice woman and gay men are her people!Why her mother stopped talking to her and why.Her thoughts on self love and her therapy.How her and all her four siblings had radically different childhoods.Why there is no "wrong way" to grieve.Her ghost podcast "Uncanny" and her story.The horiffic death of her father.Why she laughed when a Dr. gave her bad news.What she does believe in even though she does not believe in God.Where to find this fascinating lady online.Her podcast links:Ghostshttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0012pcb  Drinkhttps://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1501716010?i=1000672152841  Troyhttps://www.theoldie.co.uk/podcasts/troy-the-cradle-of-a-thousand-heroes-and-heroines [email protected] on hannahbetts.substack.com Follow Hannah Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

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