Don’t Scare the Newbies!

In an extra lengthy, rambly special, kirizal and S reflect on one year of hosting an award winning podcast. From how Don't Scare the Newbies! started and S's anxious dog reaction to the early analytics, to O/our favourite episodes and some lowlights (audio issues, UGH!). W/we chat about how much W/we appreciate O/our lovely audience, and then dive into a Q&A with questions you sent in!
This episode also includes a little announcement about the future of DSTN! - but don't worry, W/we're not stopping any time soon!
Content Note: Discussion of consensual non-consent play and non-consensual fantasy scenarios
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This week, kirizal and S finally get around to talking about one of O/our most essential kinks - impact play! W/we chat about why S finds hitting people with stuff fun, how different types of impact feel to kirizal, and lots of all important safety stuff. Plus - sadists hitting themselves in the penis, how a toy became known as the kirizal breaker, and the five levels of kinky kit shopping.
Thank you everyone who's stuck with U/us through some up and down audio the last few weeks - this one should be louder, but the cost for that was a few crackly moments (sorry!). The good news is that after testing all of O/our equipment multiple times W/we finally figured out that it was kirizal's laptop causing the problems, and have switched to Mx's for all recordings after this one! Will it happen again? Oh, no doubt - but for now expect cleaner audio :)
Content Note: Some mentions of CNC play and blood
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Usually if kirizal asks S why They like something, the answer is “power and control”, so this week W/we dive into that favourite “conceptual kink”. What is control, and how is it distinct from power? W/we chat about what consensual control brings to O/our relationship, and the process of negotiating and developing rules and discipline and how this becomes conditioning over time. Plus - why kirizal is so difficult to punish, emotional sadomasochism and behaviour modification, risk (of course!), and developing a dynamic centred around control.
Content Note: Discussion of coercive control, abusive relationships, and heavy psychological play
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This week, kirizal and S go back to the beginning and talking about swiping right (or is it left? W/we get confused) on each other on Tinder back in 2021 and then again on OkCupid in 2023. But, this isn't just about O/our success story - this week W/we're talking dating apps and hookup culture, from kirizal's explanation for why Grindr is like Uber Eats, to romanticising the era when online groomers "were more polite", W/we talk about online dating through the ages. But also - meeting people in meat space, how kirizal ended up drunk and sexting during the Great North Run, what makes a great dating app profile (take that tea towel OFF), and some all important safety information. And it wouldn't be a long, rambling DSTN! episode if kirizal didn't go off about feminism at some point.
Content Note: Discussion of CNC play involving simulated sexual assault, brief mention of online grooming, discussions of sexual predators and violence in context of online dating risks, and discussion of misogyny
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In which the good Christian woman, Chastity, is horribly tortured by the cruel and unreasonable witch finder Jeffiniah. Well, maybe she's a good Christian woman. Maybe she's a witch.
Yes, it's finally time for O/our second interrogation episode. Last month, kirizal and S did another interrogation scene, and this was a big one. With a booing crowd, multiple locations, costumes, roleplay, and whole new strategies from both sides. There was drama, betrayal, blasphemy in two religions and a confession in two languages. This was a scene no one wanted to miss, and now thanks to the magic (*gasp* WITCHCRAFT) of podcasting, no one has to, as W/we take you through the planning, negotiation, strategy, last minute nerves, a blow by blow of the scene, and aftercare. Plus, is kirizal now possessed by Chastity into writing smut?
Content Note: Discussion of torture - both in scene, and real-world historic and modern torture techniques - religious play, waterboarding, piss, mention of blood, and branding.
O/our friends at Insert Here also covered this scene among other adventures in Episode 20: Burn The Witch https://insertherekink.com
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