Don’t Scare the Newbies!

Mx requested something that wasn't arty and pretentious for O/our next episode, and kirizal delivered. This week, W/we're talking about 365 Days. Is a movie with only one scene of light bondage really a kinky movie? In this movie, most of the kink is non-diagetic so W/we're talking female gaze, book boyfriends, and lots of delicious tropes. Plus - why does sadness, angst, and tragedy often pop up in the darker end of romance, and why are toxic relationships on the page and on screen so relentlessly hot? Expect some feral grunting, and somehow Mx picks up a contact high from kirizal's painkillers.
Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault and kidnapping
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After your first long, hard, two week wait for new DSTN!, W/we’re talking orgasm control and denial! kirizal and S chat about what orgasm control does for O/our dynamic, why it’s fun (and awful), and some important safety talk. Plus - O/our previous masturbation habits, and a morbid lil diversion to talk about death (cheery!)
Content Note: Discussion of death and bereavement
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In an extra lengthy, rambly special, kirizal and S reflect on one year of hosting an award winning podcast. From how Don't Scare the Newbies! started and S's anxious dog reaction to the early analytics, to O/our favourite episodes and some lowlights (audio issues, UGH!). W/we chat about how much W/we appreciate O/our lovely audience, and then dive into a Q&A with questions you sent in!
This episode also includes a little announcement about the future of DSTN! - but don't worry, W/we're not stopping any time soon!
Content Note: Discussion of consensual non-consent play and non-consensual fantasy scenarios
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This week, kirizal and S finally get around to talking about one of O/our most essential kinks - impact play! W/we chat about why S finds hitting people with stuff fun, how different types of impact feel to kirizal, and lots of all important safety stuff. Plus - sadists hitting themselves in the penis, how a toy became known as the kirizal breaker, and the five levels of kinky kit shopping.
Thank you everyone who's stuck with U/us through some up and down audio the last few weeks - this one should be louder, but the cost for that was a few crackly moments (sorry!). The good news is that after testing all of O/our equipment multiple times W/we finally figured out that it was kirizal's laptop causing the problems, and have switched to Mx's for all recordings after this one! Will it happen again? Oh, no doubt - but for now expect cleaner audio :)
Content Note: Some mentions of CNC play and blood
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Usually if kirizal asks S why They like something, the answer is “power and control”, so this week W/we dive into that favourite “conceptual kink”. What is control, and how is it distinct from power? W/we chat about what consensual control brings to O/our relationship, and the process of negotiating and developing rules and discipline and how this becomes conditioning over time. Plus - why kirizal is so difficult to punish, emotional sadomasochism and behaviour modification, risk (of course!), and developing a dynamic centred around control.
Content Note: Discussion of coercive control, abusive relationships, and heavy psychological play
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