Sex With Emily

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had before. Calvin and his wife of 20+ years had their first spontaneous threesome after a night of dancing. And Jasmine finally experienced her first penetrative orgasm after years of frustration—by standing up for her needs and incorporating breathing techniques. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why scheduling difficult sexual conversations (outside the bedroom) leads to breakthrough moments • How embodiment during sex—staying present with both sensations AND emotions—deepens connection • The grinding technique that helps many vulva owners orgasm during penetration • Why breathing and edging practices intensify orgasms • How to guide your mind back when it wanders during sex If you have a sexy story to share, send it to [email protected] with "sexy story" in the subject line. More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:36 - Graham's Pegging Success: How Communication Transformed Their Marriage 4:18 - Why Pegging Is Vulnerable for Men & Breaking Masculine Taboos 7:38 - Calvin's First Threesome: From Dance Floor to Bedroom 11:48 - The Importance of Being Embodied During Sex 13:44 - Jasmine's Journey: Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Her First Penetrative Orgasm 17:04 - Standing Up for Your Sexual Needs in Relationships 20:00 - The Grinding Technique & Clitoral Stimulation During Penetration 21:44 - Using Breath & Fantasy to Stay Present During Sex 23:37 - Wrap-Up & How to Share Your Story

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades. This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically. In this episode, you'll learn: • The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone" • Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it • Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer • Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive • You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life 7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage 9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships 14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles 22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms) 28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women 29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy 39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule 42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK) 50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Todd Baratz—sex therapist and author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind—to challenge everything you think you know about relationships. Todd dismantles the fairy tale myth of "the one" and reveals why our obsession with diagnosing every difficult person as a narcissist is keeping us stuck. From exploring how oral sex can make or break your relationship to understanding why some people view emotional depth as "too much," this conversation reframes love as messy, complicated, and beautifully imperfect. T In this episode, you'll learn: • Your relationship "shoulds" are sabotaging you—every rule you've internalized about what partners should text, do, or provide creates unnecessary conflict and anxiety; letting go of these expectations (especially "the one" who fulfills all your needs) is the first step to realistic, sustainable love • Not everyone is a narcissist—our tendency to diagnose and label ourselves and others amplifies anxiety rather than solving problems; sometimes people are just incompatible, not disordered, and that's okay • You're not "too much," you just need the right match—if someone views your emotional depth and authenticity as intensity, it's because they lack the capacity to handle genuine connection; finding someone who can meet you where you need to be met is about compatibility, not fixing yourself • Sex is really about connection—when you're craving sex, you're often actually craving intimacy, vulnerability, touch, and being truly seen; understanding this deeper need helps address desire discrepancies and creates more fulfilling sexual experiences • Dating people who can't connect emotionally—approach them with compassion and curiosity, try to create space for vulnerability, but if they can't or won't open up, accept that they might not be your person and walk away without trying to force everyone to do the work you're doing More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:03 - Letting Go of "The One" & Outdated Relationship Rules 5:22 - How We "Should" All Over Our Relationships 7:26 - Understanding Your Intergenerational Trauma Story 10:23 - Growth Happens in Relationships, Not Just Self-Love 13:12 - Why We Keep Dating the Same Type of Person 17:16 - How to Connect With Men Who Struggle to Connect 22:38 - Listener Questions: Situationships & Communication 5:01 - Oral Sex Should Be Reciprocated (Period) 29:04 - The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Long-Term Relationships 32:46 - Five Quickie Questions with Todd Barrets 34:04 - Turnons: Emily & Erica Discuss Childhood Patterns 47:02 - The Connection Between Mental Health and Sex

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart—to explore why we keep choosing the wrong partners and how to break the cycle. Amy shares her revolutionary 12-person dating experiment that forces clients to date outside their type, revealing how our "type" isn't about physical traits but the emotional patterns we unconsciously repeat. From spotting unavailable partners to understanding the difference between passionate love and companionate love, this conversation reframes dating as a discovery process rather than a high-stakes audition. Amy breaks down why great daters often struggle in relationships, how to recognize your recurring emotional patterns, and why your best friend you want to make out with might be the person you've been overlooking all along. In this episode, you'll learn: • Your "type" is an emotional pattern, not a physical one—by identifying the five main emotions from your last three relationships, you can spot the cycle you keep repeating (like anxiety from chasing unavailable partners) and consciously choose different experiences • The dating experiment that rewires your brain—dating 12 people outside your type without getting into a relationship removes the pressure of finding "the one" and trains you to be present, recognize how you actually feel with someone, and notice who genuinely treats you well • Why passionate love fades and what replaces it—the neurochemical high of early romance naturally transitions to companionate love, and understanding this shift helps you stop mistaking familiarity for incompatibility and start building the deeper intimacy that sustains long-term relationships • The dating funnel approach—treating early dates like lead generation (just asking "Am I having fun? Do I want to see them again?") instead of evaluating someone as your future life partner eliminates job-interview energy and lets authentic connection emerge naturally • Stop performing, start choosing—moving from "waiting to be chosen" to actively selecting partners based on how they make you feel (not just how they look on paper) puts you in control of your romantic life and attracts people who appreciate your authentic self More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Bathmate- https://bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily/v4/podcast Timestamps:

Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration. She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being. This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system. In this episode, you’ll learn: • The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence • Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do • Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now More Dr. Emily:  • The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide • Apply for Emily's 1:1 Coaching Opportunity HERE or reach out to [email protected] for more information  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Shop the Holiday Gift Guide now! (See the full Gift Guide HERE)  Embodiment: • LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com • Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com. • Cornbread Hemp - Use code SWE for a discount at cornbreadhemp.com/swe  Health: • Bathmate Hydro Pump-  Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at bathmatedirect.com • HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com • V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at getvhealth.com  • Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte - Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at kromawellness.com  Collaboration:  • Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com  • LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com  • Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/crave  Self- Knowledge: • Magic Wand Mini - Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand  • Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator - Go to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off  • SmartSX- Head to sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Self- Acceptance:  • The Class - Head to theclass.com  • Droplette- Head to droplette.io This episode is sponsored by…  Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/  Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework 2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment 10:23 - Pillar 2: Health 17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration 24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge 29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance 34:21 - Wrap-Up