Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

In this chat, I had the pleasure of speaking with Sydney Zwicker about the many aspects of pelvic health, especially for women. We explored the emotional and physical connections tied to pelvic health and why women often seek support. It was fascinating to discuss the importance of addressing both physical issues and emotional trauma.Sydney shared her holistic approach to healing, which includes various bodywork techniques and the vital role of creating a safe space for women to reconnect with their bodies. We also touched on men’s experiences, the significance of communication in intimacy, and the need to rethink societal narratives around menopause and women’s health. * Pelvic health discussions are vital for women of all ages.* Emotional stories are intertwined with physical health.* Women often seek help for physical pain, emotional trauma, or spiritual disconnection.* Healing requires addressing both physical and emotional aspects.* Techniques include bodywork, visualization, and somatic coaching.* Men also experience pelvic health issues and need support.* Intimacy can exist without sexuality, focusing on connection.Sound Bites* "You can't separate a woman from her story."* "The body is not out to get us."* "There's no shame in the healing process."* "Men need this work too."* "Intimacy doesn't have to involve sexuality."* "Communication is a practice."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Pelvic Health Conversations01:23 Understanding Pelvic Health and Emotional Connection02:36 Pain Points and Reasons for Seeking Help04:31 The Interplay of Physical and Emotional Health06:30 Techniques for Healing and Body Awareness08:11 Expanding the Scope: Working with Men10:45 The Importance of Emotional Maturity in Healing12:12 Navigating Touch and Intimacy15:40 The Need for Non-Sexual Intimacy18:00 Communication and Intimacy in Relationships21:45 The Role of Elders and Wisdom in Sexuality24:28 Menopause: A Rite of Passage27:56 Reframing the Narrative Around Menopause30:22 The Purpose of Menopause in Evolution32:22 The Dangers of Medical Interventions35:54 The Importance of Body Awareness and Educationhttps://www.zwickerhealingarts.com/https://www.instagram.com/zwickerhealingartsSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I had the pleasure of chatting with Bel de Lorenzo about something intriguing: vaginal gymnastics or pompoir training, as it’s sometimes called. This practice isn’t just about fun; it’s all about enhancing pelvic floor strength and boosting sexual pleasure. And the best news is you don’t need to be an Olympiad or have any special skills to become an expert.We dove into why understanding the pelvic floor is so important and explored various techniques and exercises that anyone can try, no matter their starting point. Bel highlighted that training can be not only beneficial but also enjoyable—who knew working on your pelvic floor could be so engaging?We also touched on the importance of rest and recovery in any training regimen and discussed how tools and toys can elevate the experience. It was a fascinating conversation, full of insights that can help boost libido, confidence, and overall well-being. You’ll find a discount code at the end for Bel’s Vaginal Gymnastics programme. I’m curious to try it myself and will be filling you in on how my training goes!Key Takeaways* There's always something new to learn about sex.* Vaginal gymnastics can enhance dexterity and pleasure.* Kegel exercises are just the beginning of pelvic floor training.* Using fingers can help understand pelvic floor movements better.* A strong pelvic floor can alleviate incontinence issues.* Training can lead to heightened sensitivity and pleasure during sex.* You can start pelvic floor training at any age or fitness level.* Rest and recovery are crucial for muscle growth and strength.* Training can enhance libido and sexual confidence.* Making training fun is essential for consistency.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Vaginal Gymnastics05:58 Exploring Techniques and Exercises12:12 Benefits Beyond Pleasure18:05 The Connection Between Sensation and Training24:10 Enhancing Libido and Confidence29:54 Conclusion and Program Detailswww.gohddess.comCoupon code SA4S gets them 25% off on the program, it is a one-time fee for life.YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@gohddessReddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/pompoir/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@goh.ddess Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Sexologist Chris Hands and I met a few months ago but the recording was mangled, so it was great to catch up with him again and talk about the intricate dynamics of men's groups which Chris has run for several years and the pervasive influence of toxic masculinity. Our discussion delved into the cultural perspectives on sexuality, particularly among older individuals, and how these attitudes shape our experiences.We explored the role of dance as a profound means of connection, highlighting the benefits of practices such as Biodanza and Five Rhythms in fostering intimacy and vulnerability within the realm of dating. It became clear that modern relationships are rife with complexities, especially given the disconnection many individuals, particularly men, experience in today's society.The impact of the pandemic on our social connections cannot be overstated, as it has prompted a significant redefinition of relationships in later life. We addressed the challenges posed by societal norms in dating, emphasising the emotional dynamics at play. Ultimately, as with most of my conversations with experts, it’s all about learning how to communicate within relationships and the importance of sharing perspectives without attributing blame or anger.takeaways* Men's groups have evolved but often become negative.* Toxic masculinity is pervasive and affects relationships.* Cultural differences influence perceptions of sexuality.* Dance can create physical connections and intimacy.* Biodanza offers a unique way to connect with others.* Vulnerability in dating is increasingly challenging.* Older individuals often withdraw from discussions about sexuality.* The pandemic has exacerbated feelings of isolation.* Creating a supportive community is essential for connection.* Engaging in group activities can help bridge gaps in understanding. Many men feel disconnected and lonely in today's society.* The pandemic has exacerbated feelings of isolation and anxiety.* Older adults are redefining what relationships look like for them.* There is a growing desire for non-traditional relationship structures.* Both men and women are seeking companionship without the constraints of traditional dating.* Emotional dynamics in relationships require time and understanding to develop.* Societal expectations often hinder genuine connections between people.* Communication is key to navigating relationship challenges.Sound Bites* "Let's just rewrite the rule book."* "Men often just want to fix things."* "I don't do drama anymore."Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background02:54 Men's Groups and Their Evolution05:56 The Impact of Toxic Masculinity08:59 Cultural Perspectives on Sexuality11:54 The Role of Dance in Connection15:08 Exploring Biodanza and Five Rhythms18:11 Navigating Vulnerability in Dating21:45 The Disconnect in Modern Relationships24:06 The Impact of the Pandemic on Social Connections27:02 Redefining Relationships in Later Life29:56 Challenging Societal Norms in Dating33:09 Understanding Emotional Dynamics in Relationshipshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-hands-health2fit Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

It seems obvious, but rarely discussed, is the relationship between how our parents conceive us and how this can significantly influence our sexual energy and development. This topic is important, as it highlights the deep-rooted connections between our childhood experiences and adult intimacy. And yet, I suspect for most of us, considering our parent’s role in how we approach our sexuality is yet another one of those topics that may bring up shame or resentment or a myriad of emotions, which help to suppress feelings of sexual desire or longing.The Influence of Parents on Sexual EnergyIt’s fascinating to consider how shame and guilt from parents can disrupt a child’s natural arousal and sexual development. These early impressions can create patterns that affect relationships later in life. Certain life stages are critical for developing a healthy understanding of sexuality, and disruptions during these times can have lasting effects.Communication in RelationshipsOne of the pressing issues we discussed is the lack of communication about sexual needs within relationships. Partners often carry imprints from childhood, yet they may not fully understand how these affect their intimacy. As we noted, “The partner does not know what your imprints are,” emphasizing the need for open dialogue about desires and experiences.Physiological Changes and Body AwarenessPhysiological changes that occur in both women and men can also alter sexual experiences. Understanding these changes is essential for fostering intimacy. Body awareness plays a crucial role in sexual health; grounding therapy, for instance, helps individuals connect their energy flow with their sexuality. “Grounding is down to earth sexuality,” we agreed, highlighting its importance in enhancing intimate connections.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Navigating Survival BehaviorsWe touched on how survival behaviors from childhood can hinder adult relationships. These ingrained patterns can manifest as barriers to intimacy, making it essential to recognize and address them. “When women close their vagina, men close their heart,” we noted, illustrating how emotional and physical barriers are intertwined.Releasing Stress for Improved IntimacyLastly, we discussed how releasing stress through body awareness can significantly improve intimacy. By cultivating a greater understanding of our bodies and recognizing the impact of childhood experiences, we can pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.https://www.rodeparel.nl/https://www.facebook.com/maya.kerstan.3 Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe