Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

I’m a big believer that we can receive good advice from anyone, regardless of their age. Emma Shandy Anway is a West Coast-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specialises in relational and sex therapy. Although in her mid thirties, she has extensive experience working with couples aged 50+ and, during this episode, we discussed her work specifically with those aged 70+.
Having chatted several weeks ago with Dr. Susan Campbell, herself in her 80s, about her sex life, I was curious on how someone fifty years her junior approaches the topic with her older clients because I have found that lived experience counts for a huge amount and sometimes those who have no concept of what it means to be older fall into familiar tropes and stereotypes that have no bearing on reality.
I can’t say that about Emma whose approach with her older patients clearly demonstrates an openness and eagerness to help them embrace their sexual selves, whether that means exploring open relationships, kink or simply learning how to be a better lover to each other.
As Emma says, age, illness and changing bodies do not have to mean the end of a vibrant sex life; the biggest shifts are in mindset, communication and willingness to experiment.​
What I know is that it is never too late to learn, explore or rewrite your sexual story, as long as you genuinely want to and are prepared to be curious, honest and kind with yourself and your partner.
You can find Emma here:
https://www.esacounseling.com/about
https://www.instagram.com/pennyboardpsych
Here’s a Yes/No/Maybe checklist I consider to be particularly comprehensive:
You can find the episode with Dr. Susan Campbell here:
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Sexuality in Later Life
01:44 Understanding the Motivations for Seeking Therapy
06:53 Redefining Good Sex: From Okay to Magnificent
12:06 Navigating Disappointment and Apathy in Relationships
16:19 Body Confidence and Aging: Embracing Change
23:09 Exploring Alternative Relationships and Sexuality
27:47 Communication Tools for Sexual Exploration
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As soon as I saw Dr. Nikki Monti’s photo, an older woman with her streak of blue in her dark hair, I thought, we’re going to get along. A psychotherapist, who also calls herself a ‘thought healer,’ Nikki has appeared on a variety of high profile TV shows such as Keeping up with the Kardashians and recently published a memoir, ‘The Divine Traumedy of Nicki Joy: A True Grime Tale.’
This is a woman with a colourful past that includes three marriages, the first two short and chaotic, intertwined with drugs, alcoholism, violence and very brutal sex, which she now sees as reflecting how badly she treated herself. Her third lasted three decades and ended with the death of her partner, who following a prostatectomy, decided sex was over for both of them.
Without wishing to spoil this very lively episode, her current partner, whom also had a prostatectomy, chose a very different path, embracing creativity, sensuality and adaptation, and with him she describes having the best sex of her life.
Nikki is the living embodiment of my catchphrase ‘desire never retires’ and proof that, as she says, “older people can have rich sex lives if they stay in their bodies and stop running from themselves.” I encourage you to have a listen.
You can find Dr. Nikki Monti here:
https://www.instagram.com/drnickimonti
All her books and her website is available here:
https://stucknomore.com/books/
01:43 Exploring Relationships and Marriages
04:20 Lessons from Past Marriages
08:40 Navigating Love After Loss
10:21 The Importance of Sexuality and Intimacy
18:17 Finding Connection Beyond Type
27:46 Rising into Love and Self-Discovery
If you like this episode, and you’re a man who has also had a prostatectomy, you might find these two other episodes useful:
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As we age, the complexities of love and intimacy evolve, often leading to challenges that can impact our relationships. In this episode of “Sex Advice for Seniors,” I engaged in a candid conversation with clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Stewart, exploring the intersection of mental health, retirement, and sexual relationships among older adults.
One of the key themes we discussed was the profound effect of mental health on sexual relationships, particularly for men in later life. Dr. Stewart pointed out that many older adults experience a crisis of identity after retirement. For instance, men who have defined themselves by their careers may struggle with feelings of depression and aimlessness post-retirement. This shift can lead to challenges in intimacy, as depression can diminish sexual desire. Dr. Stewart emphasised that it’s difficult to engage in a fulfilling sex life when one is battling feelings of inadequacy or sadness.
Ageing is a complex journey that affects our relationships in profound ways. As Dr. Stewart highlighted, understanding the interplay between mental health, medication, and intimacy is vital for older adults. Open communication, empathy, and a willingness to explore new forms of intimacy can help partners navigate the challenges that arise as they age together. By fostering understanding and connection, couples can maintain vibrant, fulfilling relationships well into their later years.
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In this conversation, I speak with psychotherapist and sexologist Suzannah Weiss about women’s sexual health, the challenges we face, and why it’s so important for us to advocate for our own needs. We discuss her book Eve’s Blessing, which explores how pain has been normalised in women’s lives and why healthcare systems need to respond more effectively.
We also talk about empowerment, objectification, and the vital role of consent, especially in the context of sexual assault. Together, we explore how women can navigate their sexuality post‑menopause and the importance of finding healthcare providers who truly support us.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors
01:21 Eve’s Blessing: Women’s Sexual Health and Pain
05:30 The Importance of Healthcare in Women’s Sexuality
10:11 Subjectified: Empowerment and Objectification
17:29 Healing Through Narrative: Sexual Assault and Consent
23:05 Navigating Sexuality Post-Menopause
26:45 Conclusion and Resources
www.suzannahweiss.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1549106
https://www.amazon.com/Eves-Blessing-Uncovering-Pleasure-Behind/dp/1509566171/
https://www.amazon.com/Subjectified-Becoming-Subject-Suzannah-Weiss/dp/150956019X
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