In an UNPRECEDENTED COLLABORATION, generous and charming host Izzy Naud (https://izzynaudwellbeing.com/) of Sound Mind Sound Body was kind enough to allow me to share the interview (her interviewing me, oulala) that we recorded for her wonderful show with you, the Sober Sex audience. We talk about consent, the music industry and recovery. I talk incessantly and I apologize for leaving you hanging for a couple of months. Big thanks to the audience who participated!
Check out Izzy's work and Sound Mind Sound Body via her website and socials!
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Brooks Herr Returns: Embracing the Shattering
Brooks Herr is my favorite.
They are also a witch, artist and practitioner/educator of emotional and spiritual care. The guiding core of their practice is a passion for intuitive listening as a gateway to accessing empowerment, authenticity and responsiveness to the needs of our communities and our world.
For some context, Brooks was a pretty recent guest on the show and that conversation was so awesome that it proved us to start collaborating on a project surrounding how to process grief, or how to use it as a tool of liberation in the context of 12 step recovery. I am beyond thrilled to invite Brooks back to Sober Sex.
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Men's Integrity with Mischa Byruck
Mischa Byruck is a men’s integrity coach. He specializes in handling public callouts and cancellations and has supported over 100 clients to take accountability for harm and return to their lives transformed. We are thrilled to welcome Mischa to Sober Sex.
Find out more about Mischa and his awesome work at https://www.evolve.men/
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Sam Bailey: The More You Oppress Us, The More We'll Love Each Other
Sam Bailey is a sober person who is committed to improving the quality of life and wellbeing of all Trans, Non-Binary and Intersex people. They work as Care Navigator at the Clare Project, a charity in Sussex, UK, dedicated to affirming and supporting TNBI people . Sam is also an auricular acupuncturist focusing on serving people in recovery. I am thrilled to welcome Sam to Sober Sex.
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Stirring the Sauce with Tom Krasny
Tom Krasny is a queer, trans, neuro-divergent Glasgow based artist and organizer who is passionate about non oppressive ways of relating.
Tom’s work sits on the seam between art and activism, and centers consent as a valuable orientation to collectively learn and practice new skills and tools that allow us to explore relationship to self, others and the world around us with humility and curiosity.
TW: This episode briefly mentions physical self harm (referring to The Banshees of Inisherin) and uses the word 'rape', so if you aren't comfortable with these topics, perhaps it would be wise choose a different episode to listen to .
"Post conversation clarification:
Between minutes 31:42-41:55, Louisa and Tom discuss how to navigate contrasting feelings and perceptions between different sides in a relationship.
Tom wants to make it clear that the way in which we discuss differences in perception, is relevant in relationships that are based on trust and a mutual commitment to continous growth and care for all parties.
It does not apply to:
-abusive situations (where one person manipulates and opresses another)
-situations where there is an extreme cultural or institutional bias that negates minority perceptions, due to sexism, racism, pathologisation, ableism, and a lack of awareness to trauma informed care. This bias can lead to silencing and invalidation of minority experiences and perspectives.
In the above cases, external and skilled support is recommended and weight should be given to how power structures inform and uphold boundary violations of marginalized individuals.
SOBER SEX is conversations about sobriety and sexuality, in addition to (but not limited to): creativity, play, authenticity, mental health, gender identity, spirituality, healing and more. Hosted by @LOUISAHHH .