Mindset Coach: How To Build Confidence, Overcome Grief & Turn Pain Into Purpose! - Holly Matthews | EP258
Mindset Coach: How To Build Confidence, Overcome Grief & Turn Pain Into Purpose! - Holly Matthews | EP258 Episode Notes In this episode, I'm joined by Holly Matthews, actress, coach, and founder of The Happy Me Project. We dive into her journey from early TV fame and pop stardom to navigating grief, neurodivergence, and redefining success on her own terms. Holly shares powerful lessons about embracing authenticity, building resilience, and cultivating confidence, with actionable tips to help you live your life fully—no matter what challenges you face. Don't miss the opportunity to take the first step towards a more fulfilling life. Book your complimentary clarity call today and discover how Will Polston can help you achieve the success you deserve. 💡 https://willpolston.com/book-a-call/ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / Video Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 00:02 - Holly's early life and Geordie roots 01:14 - Childhood acting: Getting cast in Byker Grove 04:40 - Lessons from asking and early resilience 07:28 - Transitioning from child actor to pop star 11:36 - Summer Matthews, music industry lessons, and authenticity 13:09 - Coping with career setbacks and learning from failure 16:37 - Return to acting and mini-business ventures 18:57 - Meeting her husband Ross and early relationship 20:41 - Family, motherhood, and navigating health crises 21:21 - Ross's brain tumour diagnosis and their approach to adversity 24:50 - Grief, public attention, and coping mechanisms 28:13 - Personal development, acceptance, and finding purpose in pain 32:22 - Unmasking, vulnerability, and learning to ask for support 34:06 - Purpose, personal freedom, and Holly's North Star 38:21 - Lessons from acting: Authenticity vs. performance 41:04 - The work of finding one's real self 45:00 - Acting, self-development, and learning from books 46:32 - Holly's first introduction to self-development 49:40 - Top three personal development books 58:27 - The Happy Me Project and confidence 59:38 - Holly's #1 tip for happiness 01:00:42 - Rethinking confidence and actionable tools 01:03:52 - Holly's #1 tip for building confidence 01:06:46 - The importance of being your weirdest self 01:08:37 - Wearing your confidence and the domino effect 01:11:06 - Holly's work with entrepreneurs and the Happy Me Project 01:15:00 - The power of asking for help 01:16:33 - Closing remarks and how to connect with Holly \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / / / \ \ \ / Relevant Links For the Viewer and Citations Website - https://www.willpolston.com Instagram - https://instagram.com/willpolston Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/willpolstonmih LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/willpolston/ Twitter / X - https://x.com/willpolston TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@willpolston Check out Holly's website by clicking here: https://www.iamhollymatthews.com/ About Me: I am dedicated to helping individuals and businesses unlock their true potential through expert coaching and training programs. I'm passionate about empowering others to achieve their dreams and live a life they love. Subscribe for more insights and tips on personal development, productivity, and achieving your goals. Let's embark on this journey together!
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Episode Highlight: Why Entrepreneurship Is a Spiritual Journey - Kate Gray
Originally aired: March 2021 Episode Number: 77 What happens when 17 years of Buddhist study meets the chaos and creativity of entrepreneurship? In this episode highlight of North Star Conversations with Will Polston, Founder and CEO of The Growth Impact Group Kate Gray shares how the two paths that once seemed in conflict—spiritual practice and business—became the same journey of awakening. She opens up about the tension between being a Buddhist and a business owner, how her entrepreneurial work became her greatest teacher, and the moment a Zen parable completely shifted her perspective on what it means to live a "spiritual" life. From running seven-figure plant medicine retreats to learning that true enlightenment might just mean being a "normal person," she reveals how surrender, mindset, and authenticity turned ambition into a form of meditation—and business into a path to presence. Listen to the full episode here: https://kite.link/kategray
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Episode Highlight: Why Words Carry the Energy to Heal or Harm - Dr. Karen Darke
Originally aired: March 2021 Episode Number: 74 True alignment doesn't start in the mind; it begins when the head, heart, and gut finally agree. In this episode highlight of North Star Conversations with Will Polston, Paralympic cycling champion, adventurer, author, and mindset coach Dr. Karen Darke shares her powerful perspective on the connection between thought, emotion, and intuition, and how disconnection between the three can manifest in both our health and our lives. Reflecting on her own journey of transformation following a life-changing accident, she explains how learning to listen to her intuition and emotions became the foundation for healing, self-awareness, and purpose. Drawing on ideas from thinkers like Joe Dispenza and Bruce Lipton, she also explores how energy, emotion, and belief shape our physical reality, and why words and thoughts hold the power to create or limit what's possible. Listen to the full episode here: https://kite.link/drkarendarke
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Episode Highlight: Why "Good Vibes Only" Isn't Always Good for You - Keshav Bhatt
Originally aired: February 2021 Episode Number: 73 Positivity can lift you up or quietly wear you down. In this episode highlight of North Star Conversations with Will Polston, award-winning life coach, speaker, and content creator Keshav Bhatt explores the rise of toxic positivity and how well-intentioned self-help messages can sometimes cause more harm than healing. From hustle culture slogans to "good vibes only" mantras, he explains how the constant push to stay positive can silence genuine emotions and overlook the impact of environment, privilege, and social context. Through personal stories and cultural insights, he shows that real growth comes from balance—recognising both light and shadow, strength and struggle. Learn how to recognise when positivity turns harmful, set healthier boundaries with the messages you absorb, and build a mindset rooted in authenticity, awareness, and self-compassion. Listen to the full episode here: https://kite.link/keshavbhatt
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Episode Highlight: How Alcohol Fuels Anxiety and What to Do Instead - Ruari Fairbairns
Originally aired: February 2021 Episode Number: 72 Most people think quitting alcohol is about willpower, but it's really about awareness. In this episode highlight of North Star Conversations with Will Polston, founder of One Year No Beer Ruari Fairbairns breaks down the deeper psychology behind our relationship with drinking—why we reach for a glass, what we're actually searching for, and how understanding our triggers can transform the way we cope, relax, and connect. From using alcohol-free alternatives to exploring the real roots of anxiety and restlessness, he reveals how alcohol doesn't soothe our emotions and instead fuels them. Through practical steps and powerful reframes, he shows how to replace old habits with healthier rewards, from movement and meditation to rest and routine. It's not just about removing alcohol; it's about rediscovering clarity, calm, and control in every part of life. Listen to the full episode here: https://kite.link/ruarifairbairns
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