How To Deal

In this powerful conversation, safety expert Dannah Eve, known as The Street Smart Blonde with over 4 million followers, combines her academic knowledge with street smarts to deliver life-saving insights. We explore practical strategies for keeping our families safe without living in constant fear.
## Key Takeaways
- **Live aware, not in fear** - Dannah's motto emphasizes empowerment over paranoia
- **The What If Game** - Turn safety preparation into engaging family activities
- **Lying to survive** - Teaching kids when dishonesty protects their safety
- **Family code words** - Essential communication tools for emergencies
- **Trust your gut instinct** - Developing intuition as a safety muscle
- **Connection as protection** - Being your child's safe space builds trust
## About the Guest

**Dannah Eve** is a trusted safety expert and digital creator known as The Street Smart Blonde. As a former D1 athlete and Summa Cum Laude graduate in Criminology and Psychology, she combines academic knowledge with street smarts to deliver life-saving insights to her rapidly growing audience of over 4 million followers across her social media platforms.

**Connect with Dannah:**
- Website: [dannaheve.com](https://www.dannaheve.com/)
- Instagram: [@dannah_eve](https://www.instagram.com/dannah_eve/)
- YouTube: [@dannah_eve](https://www.youtube.com/@dannah_eve)
- Twitter: [@dannah_eve](https://x.com/dannah_eve)
- LinkedIn: [Dannah Eve](https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannah-eve-434b33193/)

## Resources Mentioned

- **Street Smarts Book** by Dannah Eve - [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Street-Smarts-Instincts-Outsmart-Danger/dp/0063438887) | [Barnes & Noble](https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/street-smarts-dannah-eve/1147525519) | [Bookshop.org](https://bookshop.org/p/books/street-smarts-trust-your-instincts-outsmart-danger-and-stay-safe-in-a-world-that-isn-t-dannah-eve/872c84c47df982dc)
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**Learn more about secure parenting:**
https://www.attachmentnerd.com/secure-parenting-program

**Connect with Eli:**
- Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd

**Music by Gold Child:**
https://www.goldchildmusic.com/

We all have biases. Every single one of us.
They're the mental shortcuts our brains built when we were young—and most of us never thought to question them. But what happens when your child starts forming their own identity, and it challenges everything you thought you believed?
In this episode, Eli sits down with Destini Ann Davis—bestselling author of Very Intentional Parenting, certified parenting coach, and creator to unpack how our unexamined biases can quietly erode secure attachment with our kids.
They dive into:
Why ALL humans have biases (and why that's not the same as being "bad")
The difference between recognizing bias and acting on it
How proximity and diverse exposure actually rewires our brains
Why "distance breeds suspicion, but proximity breeds empathy" (Tyler Merritt)
Teaching kids to pause and get curious instead of react with judgment
How authenticity about our own biases creates deeper connections

Whether it's biases about race, gender, neurodivergence, body size, or a hundred other things—this conversation will help you examine what you're unconsciously passing on.
📝 TAKE THE TEST: Harvard University's Implicit Association Test (IAT) — https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html
ABOUT THE GUEST:
Destini Ann Davis is a certified parenting coach, bestselling author, and speaker who helps parents create intentional, connected relationships with their children through her "Very Intentional Parenting" approach. Her TikTok has grown to over 900K followers, and she recently earned her master's in psychology.
Website: https://www.destiniann.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/destini.ann/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/destini-davis-a44700266/
Book: Very Intentional Parenting by Destini Ann Davis

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Harvard Implicit Association Test (IAT): https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html
I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt: https://www.amazon.com/Take-My-Coffee-Black-Reflections/dp/1546029419
Very Intentional Parenting by Destini Ann Davis

📚 PRE-ORDER ELI'S NEW BOOK: "How to Deal With Your ____, So Your Kids...

Your kid finally learned to regulate their emotions... and then they turned 8 and it all fell apart. Sound familiar?
In this episode, Eli sits down with Alyssa Campbell—co-author of the New York Times bestseller Tiny Humans, Big Feelings and her new book Big Kids, Bigger Feelings—to unpack why the pre-teen years hit so differently (and why your biases might be making it worse).
They dive into:
Why that "calm period" around age 6-7 doesn't last (and what's actually happening in your kid's brain)
How to parent when your sensory needs are completely opposite your child's
The difference between entitlement and dysregulation (spoiler: it's usually the second one)
Why "attention-seeking" behavior is actually a need, not a want
A free tool to understand your (and your kid's) unique nervous system

Whether you have neurotypical or neurodivergent kids, this conversation will change how you see those eye rolls, door slams, and "attitudes."
Resources mentioned:
Take the free Sensory Quiz: seedquiz.com
Big Kids, Bigger Feelings by Alyssa Campbell
Tiny Humans, Big Feelings
Learn more about Seed and Sew: Link

Music by Gold Child - www.goldchildmusic.com

What would you tell your younger mom self?
In this deeply personal first episode, Eli sits down with **Babs Slaton, MA, LPC**—fellow therapist, colleague at the PASS Center, and the original cycle breaker in Eli's family. Babs was the first person in their family system to look around at the dysfunction and say, "This feels insecure. We need to figure something out."
Babs shares the five things she wishes someone had told her when she was a young mom in the trenches—wisdom refined through decades of parenting, therapy, and watching her grandchildren thrive.

In this insightful talk, Eli explores the multifaceted concept of loss from a child's perspective, providing parents and caregivers with a comprehensive framework to understand and aid children during these challenging times. From the little losses to the big ones, discover strategies and insights to navigate these poignant moments in a child's life.